His loss. If he's not into you when you're wearing only lingerie, he has issues. And you don't need his validation to feel confident. You can wear it to put a smile on your own face instead. Get a full-length mirror, and remind yourself that you're gorgeous no matter what, and your partner is missing out on a fantastic woman.

wel next time he wants to get laid just repeat to him what he said to you and if he forgets saying that remind him then go buy a toy show it to him with an evil smile and go lock yourself in your room. if he thinks he can't have you he will want you

I don’t think that means he’s not attracted to you. Sometimes people just aren’t in the mood. It definitely doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have confidence! If your needs aren’t being met, talk to him about it. You deserve to feel good about yourself!

OP - Sorry that boyfriend was so insensitive. Be aware that for many men nothing is more alluring than naked - Lingerie often adds nothing except expense. On the other hand if you and he are into some fantasy like sexy maid or whatever then that might be more effective.

Lucky man that doesn’t appreciate what he has. Have words and ask him to dress up next time. See if he has ‘the confidence to do it’. ;)

Now, if a man posted something similar there would be responses about how "she isn't your slave" and "all you men expecting a woman to ..... just because.....". But since it's a woman who posted it about her boyfriend it's all "what is wrong with him" and "you need to whip him into shape" etc...

Possibly just sick/and or tired just once twice doesn’t mean he’s not interested entirely. Maybe he’s stressed about family stuff or work