Today, I came out of the closet, after years of fear and shame, thanks to my mom making me to go to a church full of fundies my whole life. In the end, I was in tears. All I got was a frown and a "So? Want a medal or something?" FML
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Questions about your love life, a burnt turkey and the cousin who knows everything: Thanksgiving, a contact sport.
Today, I came out to my mom. I had an epic speech planned, and when I tried to tell her, it all fell apart and I started crying and just said, "I'm gay." After a few seconds silence, my mom sighs and says, "Duh." FML
Today, I finally worked up the courage to tell my mom that I'm gay. She sympathetically patted my back and told me I don't need to make up excuses for me being so unattractive to women. FML
Today, I came out to my parents and siblings as gay. They were very accepting and asked me why I waited until I was 25 to do so. I didn't have the heart to tell them it was their own homophobic remarks that kept me closeted since I realized it at 14, and that a previous coming-out to a parent was dismissed as 'a phase'. FML
Today, I told my friends I had been hiding something that I wanted to come clean on. My one friend responds by saying, "FINALLY you come out of the closet. It's about time." I'm not gay. I was just going to tell them my parents were getting a divorce. FML
Today, I finally came out to my dad, who is a priest, as gay. He responded by splashing me with holy water to "banish the demon within" me. FML
Today, I came out to my parents as lesbian. Surprisingly, they were OK with it… just as long as I still marry a dude, give them grandbabies, and keep the whole lesbian thing a deep, dark, shameful secret that we never talk about again. FML
Today, my son decided to come out of the closet by wearing a shirt that said "Mom, I'm gay" to the family reunion. FML
Today, I came out of the closet. Now whenever I'm getting ready to go somewhere with my dad he says, "Lesgo, lesbo." FML
Today, at 18, I finally told my mom I was gay. She spent the rest of the day bringing up my "future wife" at every possible chance she had. FML
Today, I finally decided to tell my parents I was a lesbian. They spent the next few hours reading me the bible. FML
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pleasedie 22
Well at least it went relatively well. Some people are disowned and thrown out for things like that.
thesunlord 15
At least you have an understanding family
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clarisanoel 1
I am so proud of you! Way to be true to your authentic self =)
janfleury 19
Congratulations on taking that huge step. My guess is that your Mom already knew you were gay. I know when some of my family members came out I was not surprised. I knew for a long time and it did not matter to me.
vikky538 29
Trust me.. This is one of least expected response from tour family for coming out of closet scenarios.. I have seen more violent scenes
diagnosed 15
first of all, kudos to you man for coming out of the closet and having the bravery to stand up and be yourself. Second, your mother seems like a very insensitive individual. That is not the way to handle a conversation like that. Even if you do not agree with your child's choice. FML OP don't worry about what your family says. Don't ever be afraid or ashamed to be yourself.
LyingBlood 8
there is nothing special about coming out of the closet. if OP had been proud of their sexuality they would have come out sooner, or not been crying
Suaria 38
It could have been worse. Your family could have been completely unaccepting and kicked you out. It is rude they said what they did.
unholyswiss 19
I came to the realization I found other gals attractive at about six, when I would get nervous chatting with them and never felt those butterflies around the dudes I played sports with. Most of my family figured it was a phase I would grow out of. Years later I still am and always will be pansexual and completely okay with it. As long as you're confident and accept your preferences it hardly matters how anyone else feels about them. Life is far too short to worry about their expectations and false assumptions of your character. Be proud and embrace it, and grateful they haven't yet disowned you over it.
unholyswiss 19
ETA As for the church situation, when you find a place in the world that you feel respected and comfortable, it does wonders for the mental scarring left by those who previously oppressed you.
VagueEel 13
I have a feeling OP's mom knew. Parents tend to know these things, especially moms
kikimiko 7
Sometimes people aren't very nice. Good for you OP. Live life to the fullest! No more secrets! Be happy :)
NakedandAfraid 14
fundies?
HopeLEssGossip 16
I understand how you feel, OP. To do something courageous as coming out of the closet, after pep talking yourself and getting for the big moment, only for your family to treat it as an everyday event, is kind of a letdown. It doesn't mean much, but I'm proud of you for coming out, and you should be proud that you took this giant step. It's great that your parents accept you for who you are, and I hope you cherish that, but I know how it feels for it to seem like people don't really care.
LyingBlood 8
it is an everyday event you idiot, there isn't anything special about it. I know lots of people who came out bi or pan. they don't think it's a big deal cause they were proud and that's all that matters, that's why they came out. cause they were proud, not cause they wanted something