Today, I came out of the closet, after years of fear and shame, thanks to my mom making me to go to a church full of fundies my whole life. In the end, I was in tears. All I got was a frown and a "So? Want a medal or something?" FML
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Today, I came out to my mom. I had an epic speech planned, and when I tried to tell her, it all fell apart and I started crying and just said, "I'm gay." After a few seconds silence, my mom sighs and says, "Duh." FML
Today, I finally worked up the courage to tell my mom that I'm gay. She sympathetically patted my back and told me I don't need to make up excuses for me being so unattractive to women. FML
Today, I came out to my parents and siblings as gay. They were very accepting and asked me why I waited until I was 25 to do so. I didn't have the heart to tell them it was their own homophobic remarks that kept me closeted since I realized it at 14, and that a previous coming-out to a parent was dismissed as 'a phase'. FML
Today, I told my friends I had been hiding something that I wanted to come clean on. My one friend responds by saying, "FINALLY you come out of the closet. It's about time." I'm not gay. I was just going to tell them my parents were getting a divorce. FML
Today, I finally came out to my dad, who is a priest, as gay. He responded by splashing me with holy water to "banish the demon within" me. FML
Today, I came out to my parents as lesbian. Surprisingly, they were OK with it… just as long as I still marry a dude, give them grandbabies, and keep the whole lesbian thing a deep, dark, shameful secret that we never talk about again. FML
Today, my son decided to come out of the closet by wearing a shirt that said "Mom, I'm gay" to the family reunion. FML
Today, I came out of the closet. Now whenever I'm getting ready to go somewhere with my dad he says, "Lesgo, lesbo." FML
Today, at 18, I finally told my mom I was gay. She spent the rest of the day bringing up my "future wife" at every possible chance she had. FML
Today, I finally decided to tell my parents I was a lesbian. They spent the next few hours reading me the bible. FML
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pleasedie 22
Well at least it went relatively well. Some people are disowned and thrown out for things like that.
thesunlord 15
At least you have an understanding family
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Comments (87)
dracolich 27
I'm sorry your family can't understand what a big deal everyone and media usually makes coming out. You were right being nervous and they could have been more understanding of why, especially if they have nothing against it.
cylonN6 3
Your bravery has not gone unnoticed. Good for you, OP
RedCronos 17
could've been worse
siyca 13
What were you expecting, a congrats party?
kowsee 22
Now they know
tigerthepredator 16
Welcome to 2016, where nobody with half a brain gives a **** if you prefer penis over ****** (I know I do ;). People get bullied and disowned and hated against for people like us. Religions hate on us. Everyone hates on us. So not giving a **** seems to be the best policy. I've never been worried about others finding out who I am. (Then again I'm bisexual so I could always pretend that I'm straight. XD Those mutherfuckers will never find out.)
dafabs 16
Were you expecting them to go crazy happy for you or something
Tripartita 45
Yep, that's why the OP was crying. This was a very joyous occasion for them.
lechatsurletable 14
I feel ya, OP. I'm out as bi to literally everyone but my family for the exact same church reason. I'm glad you didn't get an overtly hostile reaction, but I totally understand how the tone of their comments could be extremely hurtful. For those who didn't grow up in a fundamentalist environment, some context: dismissal of someone's identity in this fashion is a common tactic used to confuse and scare people into adhering to the fundamentalist dogma. Fundamentalists will often also refuse to acknowledge that their conduct is damaging and sometimes downright hateful, instead blaming the "victim," so to speak, for any offense taken or for "misremembering" how a conversation went. There are actually parenting books advocating this method. I wish I were kidding but I'm unfortunately not. My guess is that's the history OP had with the church, so the subtext, not the literal wording--which was still pretty rude--was the truly hurtful part.
SecundusSecunda 27
Well do you? I probably would want a medal.
pandarae 12
I hope you found an end to your anxiety and turmoil even if you found the response kind of idk anticlimactic.