By Spinster - 30/09/2015 05:26 - United States - Brush

Today, I asked my boyfriend of 3 years what he thought about marriage in the future. "Who knows? We might meet other people soon." FML
I agree, your life sucks 26 213
You deserved it 2 427

Same thing different taste

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Could be nothing, maybe he meant that he doesn't know what will happen in the future? Hope for the best, OP!

andits 21

How soon? Because it's time to replace him.


bobo_the_bear 5

Why would she break up with him on a plane?

countryb_cth 38

That would be the worst since you have to sit next to them for hours in awkward silence. Deffinatly not a good place to break up.

Queen_of_Night 20

#1 is likely referring to a live tweet series that was a man breaking up with a woman while they were on a plane. After all the commotion and discomfort they caused the other passengers by yelling and crying, they spent the rest of the flight making out.

Could be nothing, maybe he meant that he doesn't know what will happen in the future? Hope for the best, OP!

Blackbiker_fml 7

Certainly not a very good advice. I'm a guy and i've already heard stuff like that from previous girlfriends, so you can trust me when i say it - forget about marriage with this guy, what he really means is - I don't wanna hurt your feelings by saying it out loud, but don't keep your hopes up - it's actually nice of him to be tactful and give the message between the lines but point is, he won't marry you.

If marriage is something you truly see in your future then maybe you should try to meet other people.

This. I've always wanted to get married but my current boyfriend of six months doesn't believe in marriage. It's something I've struggled with, but I can compromise because marriage is just a piece of paper. Upon reflection, my reasons for wanting to get married are kind of selfish. I want a pretty ring, a pretty dress, and a pretty cake. If OP's boyfriend really doesn't want to get married, and that's not a compromise OP can make, it's probably better to end it. Being in a relationship for so long and not wanting the same things just makes it harder down the road. I think it's time for a lot of reflection and communication.

Queen_of_Night 20

#34 there are other reasons to get married besides the dress and the cake. My 2 year anniversary is in a few weeks, we aren't married but we live together. We live on the other side of the country from our families. If something were to happen to either one of us, we would not be able to make the quick decisions for each other that may depend on us living or not. Other decisions would require one of our mother's to fly up here and handle the legal obligations. It would be a real hassle. A family could deny the right for a S.O. to see their partner in the hospital, a real problem for gay couples. He gets nervous about these things so I'm giving him the space to decide, but I do plan on being married, hopefully to him. and my mother is insisting that an engagement should happen soon. We have talked about it and I hope he is in that direction but he knows I won't wait forever. If your bf is dead set on not being married and the chances of him changing his mind are slim then break it off now. A little advice, when a man says they "Don't think I ever want to get married." they usually mean "I don't want to marry you." Trust me, I had this happen before.

There's definately reasons besides a dress and a cake to get married. But in my own mind thats a big thing I want, and really if I want to spend my life with someone I don't need the dress, the ring, or the piece of paper. In my situation, it's only been six months. It started as a FWB/fuckbuddy situation that evolved into feelings that have only been established less than a month ago. The conversation of not ever getting married happened long before this, and I wasn't even directly involved. Bunch of people around. Anyways I'm rambling. A lot of women can't deal with it and should call it quits before they get too invested or make that compromise.

20bricks 28

Tell him that he can invite those people for a swingers' party after you get married.

How? Honestly OPs partner could be the best person in the world and just doesn't like the idea of marriage. OP could abuse kittens for all we know. How can you honestly say that OP is better off without?

#5- People like you are the cancer of FML.

They're worse than the people who make the "What a shitty situation." puns.

andits 21

How soon? Because it's time to replace him.

skymachine 23

Does everyone jump to conclusions this often?

I'd say quite often with rising divorce rates.

I wouldn't break up with him just over that, he was probably only implying that anything can happen, and marriage might not come.

58: Which is reason to break up immediately. If she wants it and he doesn't then every day with him is wasted.

#62 - You don't break up with someone becauuse they can't see the future.

You're jumping the gun there girl. Lots of people are scared of commitment nowadays and it's no surprise to hear these kinds of stories

lexieLS 2

Lol! Some people are just better at planning the future. And marriage shouldn't be the ultimate goal. Seriously, if you're happy with someone it's all that matters

You should talk with him. If he honestly doesn't see marriage or just a longer relationship in general than you might need to end things soon.

i8cake 12

What he really means is: "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free" I don't think he sees a real future with you. Best of luck to you both!

OP isn't a cow though. They're a person with feelings and hopes for commitment...

leogachi 15
EmsyyyRose13 24

@43 a shitty metaphor that implies women are animals/objects.

Necessarily all humans are animals but I guess thats not the point