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FML - The follow-up

Today, after much self-doubt and awkwardness, I learned that I look amazing in a little black dress. Now I have to figure out what I'm going to tell my wife. FML

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OP here. Thanks for the support, everyone - I have told her, and, while she's definitely not into it, at least she doesn't plan to leave me over it. To those of you wondering whether I'm a transvestite, a crossdresser, a transexual, or transgendered - there are waaay too many of these names, and it's confusing. How about I explain it this way: I'm a girl on the inside, and I'm still attracted to girls (a lesbian, perhaps?). I don't mind my body, and I don't mind wearing men's clothes (heck,
By ohfuckwaffles - / Tuesday 29 January 2013 05:28 / United States - Bremerton
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while it is perfectly possible that he is questioning his sexuality, I think it is also just as possible for OP to be completely straight. I do not take part in dressing up in womens clothing, but some men just enjoy it even though they are still attracted to women. I don't think how you like to dress needs to mean you are a certain sexuality, even though it can be a hint

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It doesn't necessarily mean OP's sexuality is any different. It more likely means OP's gender identity is different from what their wife has thought their entire relationship. Yes many men enjoy cross-dressing and for them it has some sexually gratifying component. But for other biological men, it has more to do with their gender identity. I have a feeling OP is in this latter category, based on the "self-doubt" statement, but with stigma these days OP really could be in either situati

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You know, the Romans and Greeks wore a dress (although they were robes) type fashion. Do not be ashamed OP think that your are a strong Spartan! Or a Celtic although they were kilts. Still man can look manly in a dress.

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What if he meant he needed her help taking it off? Could easily make a joke out of it by saying "See! I told you that you are skinny! Now help me get it off my arms are to muscular, etc." Unless, she gets jealous of him looking better in it :x

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"gender studies major" A major which you don't need college for. Liberal arts degrees are worthless, STEM degrees are the only honorable ones. Just to think you probably spent $25,000 per year for 4 years for a liberal arts degree teaching you about gender identities. I'll be coming out in 3 years with little debt and probably a higher standard of education than liberal arts majors yet we both get an accredited bachelor's degree even though you liberal arts majors have it way easier.

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53, I would personally prefer to find out from my other half telling me! Although some don't see it as a problem others do so it would be a good idea to let her know. That way she can decide whether or not she wants the relationship to carry on (if it's more than a one time thing) and if she does find it okay she can choose whether she wants to see him dressed up or not.

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53- she might not find out on her own. I knew a couple where the husband liked to dress up. She didn't know for many years into their relationship because he would only do it when she wasn't home and hide the clothes.

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53, your comment could equally apply to someone cheating on their partner, and if that's your attitude about keeping secrets then I feel sorry for your partner, if you have one.

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43, gay men don't wear dresses - transsexuals and crossdressers do. And crosdressers are not necessarily gay. Go work on your sex education - you have much to learn.

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#43 - I meant to say that two guys in a relationship can share clothes, and their closet doubles (no pun intended). My comment was cut a bit short - forgot to add the context to it. I wasn't referring to cross dressing etc. And I'm bi myself, so it's not an uneducated comment- just a misunderstood one.

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Only if they're the same size. And, no, cross-dressers typically identify as straight. Some men just like the feel of women's clothing. Hopefully OP's wife is evolved enough to know this.

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Haha so was I. Defiantly didn't expect OP to be a guy. He must have a feminine body. OP, if it is something you don't do much or want to do often then probably better off not telling her. But if you are really into it and plan on doing it a lot then telling her maybe the way to go.

Today, I looked everywhere but I couldn't my favorite little black dress. I went to ask my husband if he had seen it only to discover him trying it on in the bathroom. FML

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@23 A person whose physical sex does not match with their gender is transgendered (someone whose physical sex does match with their gender is cisgendered). This relates to gender identity. A transvestite, or crossdresser, is a person who prefers clothing of another gender. They are mostly straight cismen. This relates to gender presentation. *fist-bumps to the OP*

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56, I know where you're coming from and the definitions are correct but I've always thought it's almost sexist in some ways because even though girls wear a lot of boys clothes (I'm always wearing my boyfriends clothes) but I'm not classed as a crossdresser. I'm not the only one who sees it as sexist right?

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@69 It *is* sexist, because it implies that people who want to wear female-designated clothing are weird. (Sometimes the clothing itself is weird, like the whole fake pockets business, but that's a different issue.) It's othering women. On the other hand, just because someone likes to wear clothing of non-typical of their designated gender doesn't mean that they disagree with their designated gender, it just means they think dresses are fabulous. (Which, in my opinion, they are, but on other pe

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#69 No you're not. There always seems to be these slight things that people overlook that is in fact sexist (nowadays mostly for men because everyone focuses on people being sexist towards women, and sometimes forget its a two way street). I personally don't mind my GF wearing my clothes, and I know that if she wanted to see me in something of hers I'd play along. Who knows, could end in something a little more fun of you know what I mean ;P There's nothing wrong with that OP. Just don't tell h

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Bit of a correction: A *transvestite* is someone who dresses in clothing of the opposite gender because it's sexually exciting. Someone who's *transgendered* is someone who feels that his or her biological sex doesn't match his or her gender. A *crossdresser* is someone who wears clothing not associated with his or her gender, no matter what the reason. Finally, a *drag queen* is a man who wears women's clothing, and often also adopts exaggerated feminine mannerisms, as a central theme of a

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It seems people think I'm wrong. That's not what my dictionary tells me though: trans·ves·tite /transˈvestīt/ Noun A person, typically a man, who derives pleasure from dressing in clothes appropriate to the opposite sex. So the difference between a cross-dresser and a transvestite is, probably, that the more correct original term is transvestite and cross-dresser is a more modern slang.

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I dated a guy who, after 9 months, told me he was a cross dresser. The sad part is that he was 10 times hotter than his younger sister when he got all dolled up. I think I still have a photo...

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