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By ChessNut - / Tuesday 27 November 2018 12:00 /
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By  BurnInDemonFire  |  24

I hope you shamed the idiot. Autism isn't something you can control, like being stupid. Stupid people are the real nuisance. Tell her Einstein was autistic, tell her you're autistic, and then tell her she may look nice on the outside, but she's ugly as fuck on the inside, then walk away like she doesn't exist.

By  mssileas  |  17

Well at least now you know her true colors.

I'm a bi, rather gender-indifferent person. And let me tell you, there is a whole cemetery of crushes in the backyard of my soul - crushes that have died horrible deaths because of some off-hand sexist, racist, homo- or transphobic remark.

It sucks, because obviously you saw something in that person. And even though they mostly speak out of ignorance, not out of malicious intent, it still hurts. Maybe she'd think about it again or even change her mind if she knew about your autism, I can't tell, but just know that you don't have to make yourself the lab rat on which she can test her levels of tolerance.

There's tons of other people - especially as you get older - who will like you just fine for who you are. Good luck.

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By  BurnInDemonFire  |  24

I hope you shamed the idiot. Autism isn't something you can control, like being stupid. Stupid people are the real nuisance. Tell her Einstein was autistic, tell her you're autistic, and then tell her she may look nice on the outside, but she's ugly as fuck on the inside, then walk away like she doesn't exist.

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  Virids  |  11

Many people don't know Autism comes in many many forms. Luckily my form of Autism can be controlled, it gives me a bit of an inner conflict but I can live with it. It's just a shame some people think so negative about Autism. Some people can be autistic and you never know, I've had people tell me such after I informed them I have a form of Autism.

By  Dave_Davington  |  31

"We're much less annoying when we're balls deep, if you know what I mean."

You're welcome. As an added bonus, that last part can serve as an actual question, which in your case should yield vital information that cannot be gathered any other way.

By  mssileas  |  17

Well at least now you know her true colors.

I'm a bi, rather gender-indifferent person. And let me tell you, there is a whole cemetery of crushes in the backyard of my soul - crushes that have died horrible deaths because of some off-hand sexist, racist, homo- or transphobic remark.

It sucks, because obviously you saw something in that person. And even though they mostly speak out of ignorance, not out of malicious intent, it still hurts. Maybe she'd think about it again or even change her mind if she knew about your autism, I can't tell, but just know that you don't have to make yourself the lab rat on which she can test her levels of tolerance.

There's tons of other people - especially as you get older - who will like you just fine for who you are. Good luck.

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  rjdr  |  7

There’s no such thing as “gender indifferent”. You’re a curious (probably teenager) and you’ll grow out of it. Don’t try and make yourself seem special.

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  mssileas  |  17

Haha how I just knew this would cause some people to fly off their handle.

I never said it was a label - it's just my way of seeing myself and other people, which is primarily not tied to "this is a boy" or "this is a girl" and then jumping to a bazillion conclusions before getting to know them.

The other is simply my sexuality. So I don't know where you see too many crazy "labels", but go off I guess. And yes I can relate to OP's experience of crushing on someone, and then having them tell some BS about the very thing you are while not realizing that YOU ARE THAT THING and thus proving they have no idea what they're talking about because they can't identify you as the stereotype they're thinking of.

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  mssileas  |  17

You read where it said "rather gender-indifferent" - which just means I don't care much about separating people into binaries and then projecting outdated stereotypes onto them. Because I'm almost thirty and way past that, so good guess, still wrong.
It's not a "label", and you don't have to throw a tantrum over how I choose to describe my experience.

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  bpickett18  |  16

That actually happened to someone I know. she ghosted me for a few years because of my autism and she recently tried to get back I. touch because she ended up being diagnosed with the exact same form.

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  rsue  |  14

That's rather the point. That's a shitty thing to say no matter who you're saying it to -- she just thought she could get away with it because she was talking to another allistic person. It's a double whammy of 'she has misguided ideas about what autism even is' (since she clearly thinks it's something you can always see on the surface) as well as 'she's shitty to autistic people behind their backs'.

You're better off cut loose of her, OP. I'm a lot of things that aren't visible on the surface too (including autistic), so I know the feeling of "...but I AM that" very well.

By  alien236  |  6

I'm autistic too, and I try not to find ignorant twats so fucking annoying, but I can't help it. But can you blame me? I've been putting up with their bullshit for twenty-five years. At least you discovered her true colors before it was too late.

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