This is wrong on so many levels

By Anonymous - 10/09/2023 18:30

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Today, I noticed my new boyfriend barely touches me casually, unless I initiate, and even then he’ll pull away fairly quickly. Apparently his dad told him about "fake rape accusations", even from women you’re dating, so he’s scared to touch me now. FML
I agree, your life sucks 486
You deserved it 135

Same thing different taste

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Obviously this sucks for you, but man do I feel sorry for boyfriend too. Feeling legitimately terrified to even touch the person you love can't be healthy, especially with the way men are socialized not to seek physical affection from people other than who they're dating.

“Legal Fling, We-Consent and uConsent are the few applications which ‘have been designed to digitise the act of giving consent so as to avoid any sexual misunderstandings down the line’” it’s not legally binding but it does provide a record that hypothetically would be a huge help if anything were to happen to him. maybe that will give him some kind of reassurance that he doesn’t need to be afraid. it just sounds like he has some minor baggage. if it’s available to him, a couple sessions with the right therapist would definitely help him. but for now, he’s literally scared. if you love him do what you can to support him and help him feel comfortable enough to take that next step with you.

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It's pretty terrifying. You can decide some sexual encounter in the past was non-consensual and you can accuse him of rape. Defending himself will require thousands in legal fees and irreparable harm to his reputation even if he is 100% innocent. It's irrational to have sex these days without notarized consent agreement in place.

men like to twist women into the abusers to both delegitamize rape survivors and cast doubt on the guilt of other men. not that it can happen but dump him if he can't escape his dad's Joe Rogan brainwashing

Women made this a real concern. Until enough women call out the ones who abuse this virtual legal gun-to-the-head and it is no longer possible to ruin a life on a say-so without a full disclosure court proceeding then some men will rightfully be wary. It sucks, but here we are.

Obviously this sucks for you, but man do I feel sorry for boyfriend too. Feeling legitimately terrified to even touch the person you love can't be healthy, especially with the way men are socialized not to seek physical affection from people other than who they're dating.

“Legal Fling, We-Consent and uConsent are the few applications which ‘have been designed to digitise the act of giving consent so as to avoid any sexual misunderstandings down the line’” it’s not legally binding but it does provide a record that hypothetically would be a huge help if anything were to happen to him. maybe that will give him some kind of reassurance that he doesn’t need to be afraid. it just sounds like he has some minor baggage. if it’s available to him, a couple sessions with the right therapist would definitely help him. but for now, he’s literally scared. if you love him do what you can to support him and help him feel comfortable enough to take that next step with you.