Your a good woman. Sit then down and talk to them. Say kids, stop the fights. We have what we have. Fighting over it will not make more. Life is not fair. Sometime the older gets their way, sometimes younger. Get them to grow up. I hope that helps.

I was a single mom for a while, so I feel your pain. I highly recommend some counseling. It'll give you a place to vent, and they can help your family work in listening and communication. They will give you tools so that you aren't having to yell all the time. It's rough, I know. Hugs

I feel your pain, but I don’t think threatening violence towards your children is the best way to go about it. It could only serve to provoke them more, in turn making you forever the bad guy. Which will then probably lead to them never to listen to you ever again. Seek out help. And be weary of what you say to your children for it will shape who they become later in life. And I’m positive you don’t want to send your children into the world thinking it’s ok to threaten violence against another just to get the upper hand or that it’s ok to make someone feel weak or small else they will be hurt for speaking or saying something they don’t agree with.

Since you mentioned heathens, you are implying these kids need religion. Have some fun and indoctrinate each kid in a different religion. That should stop the fighting.

They sense your tension and are feeding off of it. How old are they?

I think you need to find more effective ways of dealing with them. I gave my kids phones so I have something to take away.

I hear you. Some kids are truly impossible. People don’t believe it and blame parents but some kids are too strong willed no matter what you do. My 6 year daughter is in a partial inpatient program at a psych hospital. There are other kids in the program and they have amazing parents. These kids are truly difficult for no real reason

Idle threats will only get you so far. Sounds like what the kids need is action - as in actual discipline, something parents these days seem to know nothing about. And they wonder why their kids are out of control and have no respect.