Thicker than water

By Anonymous - 30/11/2022 10:00

Today, my fiancée's druggie sister turned up, but I shut the door in her face because the last time she was here £200 went missing and my floor safe had fresh scratches from someone trying and failing to pick the lock. The argument with my fiancée afterwards was so bad, she’s no longer my fiancée. FML
I agree, your life sucks 1 173
You deserved it 113

Same thing different taste

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Christina Winden 22

So you want OP to go on enabling the sister at a cost to himself? No way. He has a right to protect him and his fiancée from that abuse. If the fiancée wants to keep enabling her sister that’s her own choice, but OP did the right thing shutting that crap down.

Marcella1016 31

There’s a middle ground. Let her in and be polite but let her know she can’t stay there. If fiancée demands she stay, have a serious discussion about boundaries and put a time limit on it and secure your valuables. If you both can’t agree on this issue and how to deal with the sister, you may need to rethink your compatibility. Although it seems that has already been done for you. It’s tough because you’re the one whose valuables were stolen, but from your girlfriend’s point of view it can be extremely difficult to turn your back on family, especially when they clearly need help. It’s not as black and white as people think. FYL, OP.

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If you live together with your X-fiancée then YDI. It's her/his sister, she should be involved with the decision on what, how and when to do with things related to her/his family.

Christina Winden 22

So you want OP to go on enabling the sister at a cost to himself? No way. He has a right to protect him and his fiancée from that abuse. If the fiancée wants to keep enabling her sister that’s her own choice, but OP did the right thing shutting that crap down.

Marcella1016 31

There’s a middle ground. Let her in and be polite but let her know she can’t stay there. If fiancée demands she stay, have a serious discussion about boundaries and put a time limit on it and secure your valuables. If you both can’t agree on this issue and how to deal with the sister, you may need to rethink your compatibility. Although it seems that has already been done for you. It’s tough because you’re the one whose valuables were stolen, but from your girlfriend’s point of view it can be extremely difficult to turn your back on family, especially when they clearly need help. It’s not as black and white as people think. FYL, OP.

So, I'm guessing a threesome is out of the question?