At least you don't have to worry about her being judgemental of how you keep your house decorated or anything.

Have kids. How hard can that be? You want to be in your mom's good graces, don't you?

Have you invited her over. Maybe go to their houses. Do things with her. Make a plan with her. Go shopping, see a show, have dinner with her. It’s a two way street.

Who cares? Find and old woman's pictures and post about all the fun stuff you 2 are doing.

Sounds more like you're dodging a bullet. You want her to use you to get to your children? Trust me, it's not much better than the alternative. It won't hurt any less either.

Have you invited her over? You are without kids, so you don't have to deal with packing them all up to go over to moms, so why don't you go over there? or go over with your siblings and her?

Your mother sounds incredibly toxic. It's better that you keep your distance. At least she's not making that part difficult for you.

Also, I recommend keeping away from her social media pages if they just bring you down.

I don't see that as a loss.