Slightly homophobic, but OK

By Reissa - 16/09/2022 07:30 - Canada

Today, I realized people think my boyfriend is gay because he loves romantic movies, gardening, shoe shopping, reading magazines, and bathing by himself in candlelight. After him asking me to cuddle and me to be the "big spoon," I'm starting to question it too. FML
I agree, your life sucks 466
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Same thing different taste

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Ah, the classic toxic masculinity and homophobia combo strikes again, I see! There is only one reliable indicator that a man is gay - he's into men romantically and/or sexually. That's it. Why wouldn't you want your partner to enjoy things just because they're commonly considered "feminine"? Especially things like gardening (which, I should add, is actually male-dominated at the professional level), which surely benefits you because you get a nice garden out of it?

mccuish 25

There is nothing wrong with a straight man enjoying a romantic movie or reading magazines

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mccuish 25

There is nothing wrong with a straight man enjoying a romantic movie or reading magazines

Summum and Playboy magazines were invented for that reason.

What is wrong with a man wanting to be cuddled and feel protected ? I don’t think in 2022 only adult women should be allowed to be cuddled. This is a very ma machist and patriarcal conception. I do agree that if he meant you being the big spoon with a strap-on this could raise a few questions though.

Liking butt stuff doesn't necessarily mean a guy is gay either. It's an area with a lot of nerve endings and also the easiest way to access the prostate, which I hear some really enjoy having stimulated. Literally the only thing that makes a guy gay is liking men romantically and/or sexually.

Ah, the classic toxic masculinity and homophobia combo strikes again, I see! There is only one reliable indicator that a man is gay - he's into men romantically and/or sexually. That's it. Why wouldn't you want your partner to enjoy things just because they're commonly considered "feminine"? Especially things like gardening (which, I should add, is actually male-dominated at the professional level), which surely benefits you because you get a nice garden out of it?

Wow. Really? - Let's not start bringing everyone's opinion into your relationship, if your love language is different to the point you feel like questioning his sexuality then the problem is YOU. Fhislife for having someone who thinks so little of him so will listen to all the people. Like how did this even come up with "people". Where do you live that all people come and are openly discussing your boyfriend's sexuality with you so openly. Like unless it's abusive and toxic relationship then nobody should be talking. Let him find someone better, who isn't stuck on gender roles and isn't so worried about image others see.. a house what you share with your loved one should be place of comfort, security and freedom yet you have decided he is too gay in his house doing what he likes. I really hope he will see how little you think of his interest and being unsupportive that he will swap you out to someone more aware that people's passions, interests, clothing, attitude doesn't decide their sexuality.

Way to be sucked in by stereotypes! None of those are reliable indicators of homosexuality. Does he like your boobies, and boobies in general? There's the real test -- that's science!

Doom_Kitty 12

Really? You question his sexuality because he likes nice and wholesome things? Why shouldn't men enjoy nice things, too?

You're a woman? And he's attracted to you? Not gay. Bi? Maybe. But the things you listed have ZERO to do with sexuality. You sound super boring and I hope he upgrades.

Y'all can down vote me, but I still think he should leave her homophobic ass.

I'm not sure why you felt the need to tell the entire internet you're a homophobe who promotes toxic masculinity, but congratulations, you've succeeded.