By lovelesslonely - United States


Today, my boyfriend brought me home flowers and candy for the first time in our one-year relationship. Thinking he was going to finally propose, I got excited. I asked why he was being so sweet, and he responded with, "I thought you'd take the breakup better this way." FML
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  phreshboi  |  1

What I'm A BIT surprised about is the fact she would think of marrying after one year. I know people who have, and also stats show that 87% of cupels (not correct spelling, for any grammar nazi's out there) get divorced after two years. I know for me I'd give my relationship at LEAST two years before I even consider marrying my GF.

BTW this is my opinion on this so it doesn't mean it's correct by any means(except for the statistic), so before any of you guys bark like crazy I'm only stating MY OPINION on this subject.

ps. I don't usually respond in case you wanted me to answer something you might question.

  dwold91  |  3

#90 I don't get this... If you know you mis-spelled "couples" instead of taking the time to put parenthases saying it was spelled wrong, why didn't you just fix it?? That just doesn't make sense to me.

  Madame_Javert  |  4

Agreed. Maybe it's just me, but I can't really imagine a year being adequate time for someone to decide that they want to spend the rest of their life with their partner. (Celebrity marriages don't count.)

  marc_with_a_c  |  3

Yeah, really.. I was wondering about that too, it might be normal in Alabama (where she's from) but here, people who get married that fast are usually the first to divorce, too..


It depends on the relationship. Mr. Doe and I only dated for a few months before he proposed, but we knew each other well already. We'd been quite good friends for 4 years before officially dating— had spent a lot of time talking about our respective values and goals, knew each others' families well, etc.

I'd say it would've been too early for this OP, though, since they obviously weren't on the same page about the relationship.

  avoidthegirl  |  6

Doe, but your relationship is different. It sounds like this girl was just desperate as shit. My fiance and I dated for over four years before he proposed to me, even though we both knew by year 2 that we would get married.

BTW, flowers AND candy are so cliche. I love flowers, but wtf candy? Nothing says romance like, "Here baby, I want you to get fat as shit."

  Geiko_fml  |  0

It takes a while to get to know someone. As Doe said, they were already friends for quite some time beforehand but if it was just in the beginning and all, a year seems very soon. I guess that's just me though.

And Doe, if flowers and candy aren't romantic, what is to you? :P

  LoriBrooke  |  0

ok I'm from Alabama and it's not that normal unless u get knocked up first. I am married and we only dated a year but I had known him for 5 years prior to the year of dating. so we knew each other pretty well. And now we are going on 2 years married and it's never been better. sounds like this girl is desperate to me, either that or trying to jump on the bandwagon... she needs to stay single for a while and put priorities in order.....

  MuchDance90s  |  0

If a couple were in their 50's, maybe. Hopefully, you know what you want at that stage. Or a Regency era couple, where a woman has to find a suitable "match" before she becomes an "old maid" at 25-30. ;-p

  loveyaforev  |  0

yes, I think that this is too little time to know each other well enough to he married.
I really hate when people (especially celebrities) get married after just a few months. I heard that Katy Perry is getting married (I don't remember the guys name who she is marrying) after only four months!! That's crazy!!

  missbadluk  |  0

Never understood the ridiculous concept of getting married cause she got pregnant. Just sayin. I think it's a southern thing. From California but have live in Arkansas for a few years and that "concept" is played out TENFOLD out here. And EVERY single one I know of has ended in divorce less than a year later. Fkn stupid. We all know the girl didn't get pregnant while you two were married when the baby comes 7 months later! Derrrrr! (not YOU directly. I'm talking "you" generally speaking)

  jtown2154  |  1

That's what I was thinking.. A year and he is finally going to propose? My husband I dated for 5 years before he proposed and that's fairly normal around here!

  dwold91  |  3

This makes me think of my cousin on my step-dads side. technically step-cousin I guess, but she turns 19 on October 28th, which makes her 22 days younger than me. She met her current boyfriend in May, I met my current girlfriend in January. She is Mormon and just got married on October 8th because they couldn't wait any longer to have sex. I would not even consider marrying the girl I am with for another 2 years at the absolute least. The difference between me and my cousin? Religion. Stupid Mormons fucking up the world.

  ImaginaryFoe  |  0

How is this his fault? She got her hopes up for nothing. He tried to break up in a kind way. Not every relationship lasts forever. If people have to break up, what's wrong with doing it kindly?

  didoca  |  0

...I don't think your ugly!!!... but you are 14... how about sticking to comments involving whose cuter: Justin Beiber or Zach Ephron?!