Go get some elsewhere. She probably is. The worst-case scenario is you get caught and get a divorce, which is what you two obviously need. The best outcome is she'll be less irritated by your incessant requests for sex if you don't need to make them.

Realestate market is hot. Selling now you could walk away with more $ than probably ever before. Sounds like you should speak with a marriage counselor and at least decide a course of action.

There are a lot of things you can try to help reconnect. Couples therapy is one way to go, but there are many versions of conversation starters for couples, in the form of books, decks of cards, etc. if you’re not sure what to do together try a book called “couple’s bucket list”. If you think none of that will help and you have no idea where to start there are apps to help couples reconnect as well such as an app called “lasting”. And just remember, even though our society has many stigmas about divorce, it’s also a completely acceptable option if there’s nothing left.

hold the cat hostage for sex.....or if she would get hurt worst then take a hit and start divorce procedures