By Anonymous - 14/8/2021 17:00 - Turkey - Eskisehir

Dating is hell

Today, I'd been talking to this girl for 3 months, and she finally agreed on a date. We got drinks and food, then she said, "I'm just going to the bathroom", then never came back, and blocked me. FML
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By  Chazzster  |  22

There are directions on how to do that in the book “Worst Case Scenarios - Dating”. It’s in the chapter about what to do if a date is going badly. It includes going to the restroom and changing your appearance enough to slip out or going out a window. I read that book a long time ago. It’s funny and entertaining - until it happens to you.

The bottom line is that your date was not comfortable with finishing the date with you. Think back - Did you do or say something that made your date so uncomfortable that she felt the need to escape? Did you discuss politics or religion? Did you treat the wait staff respectfully? Every experience is a learning experience - Whatever it was that you did or said, don’t do or say that again.

It is also possible, though not likely, that date spotted someone she knew and for some reason could not allow herself to be recognized as on a date with you - Like maybe her present boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse. In that case it wasn’t your fault…

You will eventually look back on this as an interesting story. Learn from it, but don’t give up.

By  TheMermaid0522  |  7

“Finally agreed to a date” makes me think she’s repeatedly told you no… or made excuses on to why she didn’t want to go on a date. Next time I would remember if you have to ask more than once then she’s probably not interested.

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By  Chazzster  |  22

There are directions on how to do that in the book “Worst Case Scenarios - Dating”. It’s in the chapter about what to do if a date is going badly. It includes going to the restroom and changing your appearance enough to slip out or going out a window. I read that book a long time ago. It’s funny and entertaining - until it happens to you.

The bottom line is that your date was not comfortable with finishing the date with you. Think back - Did you do or say something that made your date so uncomfortable that she felt the need to escape? Did you discuss politics or religion? Did you treat the wait staff respectfully? Every experience is a learning experience - Whatever it was that you did or said, don’t do or say that again.

It is also possible, though not likely, that date spotted someone she knew and for some reason could not allow herself to be recognized as on a date with you - Like maybe her present boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse. In that case it wasn’t your fault…

You will eventually look back on this as an interesting story. Learn from it, but don’t give up.

By  TheMermaid0522  |  7

“Finally agreed to a date” makes me think she’s repeatedly told you no… or made excuses on to why she didn’t want to go on a date. Next time I would remember if you have to ask more than once then she’s probably not interested.

By  ILikeBigMugs  |  5

I kinda want to know what happened before she left. I once went on a first date with a guy who looked absolutely nothing like his photos, he was even a whole foot shorter and his voice sounded different in person (like more high pitched and nasally). I decided to not be shallow and continued the date. The guy went on to talk about how spoiled he was and how he’d never have to work a day in his life, and wouldn’t stop bragging about how rich his family was. I finally made an excuse and left, then later blocked him. Looking back, I wish I would have snuck out of the restaurant and ended the date earlier. Online attraction doesn’t always translate in person.

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  ChipBoundary  |  9

While he doesn't sound like that great of a catch, for obvious reasons. If you can't be upfront and honest to someone's face about things, that says WAY more about you than it does them.