By SleeplessinNJ - 10/12/2020 05:01 - United States - Raritan

Bad Moon Rising

Today, one of my fiancé's groomsmen is an alcoholic, and my fiance is in denial about it. He's a nice guy when sober, but belligerent, disrespectful and out of control when drinking. My fiancé refuses to acknowledge my anxiety at having him in our wedding with an open bar. FML
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By  txangul  |  15

You could secretly point him out to the bar tender and ask that he not be served. Another option would be to see if a family member of the alcoholic acknowledges his issue and enlist that person's help in talking to your fiance. some battles are worth fighting. My mom is a recovering drunk and I'd 100% fight that battle to the death, to keep her from being tempted. You could also force your fiance to attend couple of Al-anon (12-step group for the families of alcoholics) meetings with you in the hopes that it'll ooen his eyes. Just Google it and you'll find a meeting nearby.

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By  txangul  |  15

You could secretly point him out to the bar tender and ask that he not be served. Another option would be to see if a family member of the alcoholic acknowledges his issue and enlist that person's help in talking to your fiance. some battles are worth fighting. My mom is a recovering drunk and I'd 100% fight that battle to the death, to keep her from being tempted. You could also force your fiance to attend couple of Al-anon (12-step group for the families of alcoholics) meetings with you in the hopes that it'll ooen his eyes. Just Google it and you'll find a meeting nearby.

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  JasonThorn  |  18

I'd also ask a friend to monitor him, then tell him that the moment he starts acting out due to alcohol, someone will be filming him...and giving YOU the video...and you intend to put it on the Internet and trot it out for friends and family at the SLIGHTEST provocation.

By  UbuntuElphie  |  15

Threaten to call off the wedding unless he acknowledges that your view is worth considering. If you allow your fiance to dismiss your concerns now, what is it going to be like in 10 years from now? If he says, "Fine, the wedding's off," rather that actually see your point, you'll be dodging a serious bullet.