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By Anonymous - 21/01/2022 11:01

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Today, my wife and I are having marital/intimacy issues. My 72 year-old mom basically told me to touch my wife, to hug her more, caress her lovingly, and pat her bottom, etc. Thanks mom, I'll grab her ass, that'll make it all better. FML
I agree, your life sucks 837
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You do realize it's ultimately fairly basic and sound advice? Maintain romantic physical contact, and bonus points if you can make it playful and sexy. That being said, the very basic (kissing and hugging) might already be tricky depending on the severity of the issues you and your wife have.

slhiggx 13

Grab her ass. Your mom isn’t wrong. Your wife is a woman. She wants to feel sexy, desired, admired. Etc. randomly compliment her physical beauty, along with compliments on her character. Help her feel attractive and desired by you. Let her know you Want her.

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You do realize it's ultimately fairly basic and sound advice? Maintain romantic physical contact, and bonus points if you can make it playful and sexy. That being said, the very basic (kissing and hugging) might already be tricky depending on the severity of the issues you and your wife have.

It can't hurt! Mom's homespun advice is a lot cheaper than professional counseling!

slhiggx 13

Grab her ass. Your mom isn’t wrong. Your wife is a woman. She wants to feel sexy, desired, admired. Etc. randomly compliment her physical beauty, along with compliments on her character. Help her feel attractive and desired by you. Let her know you Want her.

I mean, she isn't wrong. Small efforts go a long way in the mind of a woman.

Dirtysalamander1 13

did you ignore everything else and just listened to grab her ass? how ignorant.

It sounds like you missed a lot of the point 😬

So let me get this right. Your mom gave you some really helpful ways to make it better with your wife and you're now pissed? I'm really confused.

Of course he's pissed. He isn't getting any...

You won't know until you try ... or is it that you not trying is the real problem?

As a woman who doesn't like to be touched, do not randomly grab her ass - you are probably going to annoy her and make the intimacy issues worse. Instead, be loving and talk to her. The issue could possibly be emotional, which plays a huge part in the way alot of women work. Most of us are emotional creatures by nature. Chances are, she will tell you what the problem is and how to fix it, so please PLEASE listen.

Usually intimacy issues are a symptom not the problem. Dig in and find the systemic issue and the sex will fix it self. People in healthy happy relationships have great sex because they put the needs of each other first, and out of that flows great sex. And be grateful your mom is trying to help. Even if it not super helpful (may or may not be) it’s really nice that she cares.