By Anonymous - 15/05/2018 15:00
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A 4-year-old needs £400 and an iPad? Your mom needs to rethink how she's treating her kids.
You’re out of the loop, man! 4-year-olds today need at least 4 iPads: one for pre-K, one for car play, one for home play and one for their friends at a play date. They might also need a “burner iPad” in case they have a side piece on the DL. Perhaps you can chase your hoop-and-stick down the lane and stop embarrassing yourself by talking about modern times.
You are absolutely correct birthday gifts, especially for young kids, should be things they need. $400 to a 4 year old IS completely unreasonable unless it's $400 in bonds or into a savings account or something like that. Still I dont see any problem with giving a 4 year old an ipad. Personally I would have went with android or kindle since they are cheaper and can come in kid editions but that's just me. As long as what they are doing and the amount of time spent on it is monitored there is nothing wrong with giving a kid a device like that. Especially if its only used for educational purposes. I personally think it's weird that the OP knows what her stepmom got her. Usually presents from a married couple are presented as coming from both of them so either the OP's father doesnt buy presents which is a problem within itself or the OP's fsther bought the OP a set of presents and the stepmother bought the OP different presents which case would make it understandable the stepmother bought her kid more expensive stuff than her step child.
What’s your age, again? Because no one likes you when you’re 23 and complaining about your little brother’s loot! And that kid needs to cash in on his cuteness while he can. Some of us peak in adorableness in our pre-school years and then have to trudge through the rest of our lives as schlubs.
Something is very, very wrong here. (1) No 4 year old needs or should be given $400 AND an iPad. Thats insane and bad parenting. It sets the kid up for grossly unrealistic expectations. It is ultimately a serious disservice to the child. (2) I am wondering about the kind of relationship OP and stepmom have. That sounds unhealthy but to be honest I wonder just how much of that problem lies with OP.
Given that she is the op’s stepmother and she has her own son living there, it is understands how she would prefer a biological child she was married into having, but I agree that it is a massive mistake to give a 4 yr old child an iPad. If this is such a problem maybe speak to your father.
Why would it be a "massive mistake" that a child learns how to use technology? Just because they gave him an Ipad it doesn't mean he will use it all the time and never do anything else. + it's also a great learning tool. Just because older generations grew up without such technology it does not mean that today's children taking advantage of it is a bad thing. A massive mistake would be giving the child something he can hurt himself with.
While I am very sorry for how you are being treated, I do not like the fact that you seem to imply that your stepmother has no right to your family's money. She probably has a job that is just not paid, or do you have several nannies, cleaners, chauffeurs, etc. employed?
I have a step mom also. I've known her for 11 years now ever since I met her and my dads been married to her its all about her and her kids. I know the feeling of getting treated like nothing. for my birthdays I get a usual day like its just a random day her kids on the other hand get treated like royalty. Some people just shouldn't have kids or step kids. Sorry its happing to you just know that your not the only one.
If the family is relatively “comfortable” financially speaking and the 4 year old in question has been taught to care for a tablet device, I can possibly see giving a child an iPad - with a case and a good screen protector. Where it seems way, way overboard is giving a 4 year old $400 in cash or the equivalent. No 4 year old is prepared to make the kind of decision about what to do with that much money. And it sets the child up for grossly elevated expectations. What comes next $1000 when he’s 10, their own house when they are 18? One thing that does not ring quite true about OP’s story thought - The switchover in money denominations in the middle of the story. OP gets 20 pounds, 4 year old gets $400? That makes me wonder just how much of the story is true.