By topaz23 - 16/04/2015 16:34 - Canada - Surrey
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I want to thank everyone for their comments. When I went to bed crying it was nearly 4am and he had to pick up our 2 kids from his moms house at 6am. We have our issues and it's just one if those humps we are trying to get over. I posted venting cause I was frustrated. He travels lots for work and hardly sees me and our kids I think a big part of it is depression. Not that that's an excuse. We talked more before he had to leave out of town again today for 2 weeks and we are gonna try and resolve our issues though I'm not sure how well that will work out. But I am trying to stay positive. As much as it hurts he's doing his best to be honest with me and talk it through. We were both just very tired and like I said he had to pick up our kids. We have been together nearly 6 years. And he's the only person I love and trust the only ones I love more are our kids. Now matter how hard this is hurting me right now I am trying to look at the positive and moved forward.
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I'm sorry to hear that dear. Hopefully he'll give his head a good shake.
You would expect someone, even in times like this, would be caring and mature. Some people. Sorry OP, he sounds like a d-bag. FYL
The root cause may just be falling out of love. People change, some more than others, and sometimes the changes lead to different feelings. Maybe it was a gradual decrease in interest so OP never noticed. Either way, though, he acted thoughtlessly and cruelly and he should have at least shown a miniscule amount of care to OP
Some people don't know what else to say and apparently aren't as poetic with words as some others. Doesn't mean "I am so sorry" isn't any less sympathetic than a long spew of words. To OP, your husband sounds like my ex. It'll get better, it'll just take some time.
@35 - I know that personally when I'm down I don't want some to give me a fucking massive dissertation on on why my life sucks or why they're sorry. I'm sorry is perfect. When someone dies and I go to their funeral I say "I'm sorry for your loss/my condolences". Maybe something a little more personal of I were close to them. Theres nothing empty about their comment. what the hell else are they supposed to say? We don't know the OP personally. We don't know the whole situation. I'm sure that the OP, if they're looking at this, will appreciate all comments big or small.
It's not necessarily shitposting because it contributes very lightly toward the OP's mentality. It gives a face and name to the many people who say "FYL". However, "I'm so sorry" is just so bland. There's no encouragement, nothing distinct or special about it, it's bare minimum. Obviously it's going to accumulate likes over time because it's not a terrible comment, but regulars bury it initially because to them it looks lazy.
#125: "Bare minimum" is exactly my point. It's just a notch above "first" and "lol". The reason it's accumulating points is precisely the simplicity coupled with lack of controversy. Since the posts aren't graded on any scale besides + and -, the safest bet is to make a short post that will have very little for people to object to, while having SOMETHING very basic that they will feel in agreement with. Will they agree with this short post more than disagree? Hell yeah. How about that complicated one that raises a number of issues? There's a decent chance quite a few people will dislike such a post if even a single part of it pisses them off enough. Writing a long post people will READ and predominantly AGREE with is a goddamn challenge. Writing 4 words that don't really bring anything insightful to the table but express the common sentiment? Simple and effective. On any other site this would be less egregious, but FML is all about stories of bad things happening to people. Feeling sorry for most of them is the result of having empathy as human beings. There's even a button for that. Then again - the people have spoken...
That's horrible- I hope you find someone better who will treat you right and deserve you. Until then, just focus on moving on and making yourself happy. It will get better, I promise.