By vanillaforme - 27/07/2013 23:07 - Canada - Toronto

Spicy
Today, my girlfriend and I attempted some bondage for the first time. Within seconds of the handcuffs being put on, I went into a serious panic attack. I was playing the dominant; my girlfriend was the one in cuffs. FML
I agree, your life sucks 53 086
You deserved it 15 609

vanillaforme tells us more.

Hey, OP here. Here are some more details, for those curious: - All FMLs must begin with the word "Today", but this actually happened a couple of years ago. My GF and I are still together. - Yes, it was a full-blown panic attack, and the only one I've ever had in my life. Never having experienced one before, I thought it was something like a heart attack. What got edited out of the FML was that we actaully called paramedics and I ended up in emergency. - We got the handcuffs off and some normal clothes on my GF (I was already fully clothed) before the paramedics arrived, so there was no need for embarrassing explanations. For a minute though, it was a real concern. - I still don't know what exactly the trigger was. Both my GF and I were pretty nervous and weren't really enjoying ourselves. (We should have stopped when it was clear that neither of us really wanted to continue, but we figured we would try anyway.) I think her anxiety contributed to mine, eventually leading to the panic attack. - We *did* try again a few weeks afterward, when we were both much more "in the mood." No panic attack that time, but we pretty much confirmed that neither of us liked being restrained before or during sex. We both had fantasies about this sort of thing, which is what led us to try it in the first place, but reality proved much different than our imaginations. - For those wondering, they were simple police-style handcuffs, not anything specifically made for bondage play.

Top comments

It's good you guys were spicing things up, and now you know your limits and that next time you should show some... Restraint.

As long as you have the key you are fine. Pro-tip: start panicking when the key is gone.

Comments

"Chains, Chains, I just got my baby locked up in chains and I'm so scared, I think I just peed... Ohhhh, these chains of love are terrifying OP...." with apologies to Lennon/McCarthy ps- I think you're the sub in this D/S relationship. Know your place, OP, and stay there until she tells you to move!!!

Start out small, prehaps blindfolds?

kittykatnic 6

man up. alot if fun can be had with cuffs.

skinnybyotch 16

Yes cuz bondage is how we keep ourselves warm in our igloos :p

maybe you were the one meant to be put in cuffs, buttercup ;)

kitsune309 15

**** her life. It sucks having to baby the person who was supposed to dominate you.

Now there's an idea... Maybe OP's girlfriend could get him a nappy?

You obviously care about your girlfriend. She's lucky that she has a guy that would never want their girlfriend to be put in cuffs, no matter the situation.

thegreycat_fml 12

Bondage isn't for everyone, so don't feel bad. Try something else, like blindfolds, or Painting each other' body. There's also costumes, role play, using food, and a slew of other things. If you still want to pursue bondage as the spice, keep the mindset of "Safe, sane, and consensual." also, talk about what the session is going to involve before you start, and have a safe word, or signal that can be easily said.

Pay attention ladies! This is the reality of 50 shades of Grey.