By vanillaforme - 27/07/2013 23:07 - Canada - Toronto

Spicy
Today, my girlfriend and I attempted some bondage for the first time. Within seconds of the handcuffs being put on, I went into a serious panic attack. I was playing the dominant; my girlfriend was the one in cuffs. FML
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vanillaforme 0

Hey, OP here. Here are some more details, for those curious: - All FMLs must begin with the word "Today", but this actually happened a couple of years ago. My GF and I are still together. - Yes, it was a full-blown panic attack, and the only one I've ever had in my life. Never having experienced one before, I thought it was something like a heart attack. What got edited out of the FML was that we actaully called paramedics and I ended up in emergency. - We got the handcuffs off and some normal clothes on my GF (I was already fully clothed) before the paramedics arrived, so there was no need for embarrassing explanations. For a minute though, it was a real concern. - I still don't know what exactly the trigger was. Both my GF and I were pretty nervous and weren't really enjoying ourselves. (We should have stopped when it was clear that neither of us really wanted to continue, but we figured we would try anyway.) I think her anxiety contributed to mine, eventually leading to the panic attack. - We *did* try again a few weeks afterward, when we were both much more "in the mood." No panic attack that time, but we pretty much confirmed that neither of us liked being restrained before or during sex. We both had fantasies about this sort of thing, which is what led us to try it in the first place, but reality proved much different than our imaginations. - For those wondering, they were simple police-style handcuffs, not anything specifically made for bondage play.

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RoboCunnilingus 23

It's good you guys were spicing things up, and now you know your limits and that next time you should show some... Restraint.

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Welshite 39

As long as you have the key you are fine. Pro-tip: start panicking when the key is gone.

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thepretender10 4

man up pussy

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ThedaRose 15

Maybe she just got done reading 50 shades of gray?

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vanillaforme 0

Hey, OP here. Here are some more details, for those curious: - All FMLs must begin with the word "Today", but this actually happened a couple of years ago. My GF and I are still together. - Yes, it was a full-blown panic attack, and the only one I've ever had in my life. Never having experienced one before, I thought it was something like a heart attack. What got edited out of the FML was that we actaully called paramedics and I ended up in emergency. - We got the handcuffs off and some normal clothes on my GF (I was already fully clothed) before the paramedics arrived, so there was no need for embarrassing explanations. For a minute though, it was a real concern. - I still don't know what exactly the trigger was. Both my GF and I were pretty nervous and weren't really enjoying ourselves. (We should have stopped when it was clear that neither of us really wanted to continue, but we figured we would try anyway.) I think her anxiety contributed to mine, eventually leading to the panic attack. - We *did* try again a few weeks afterward, when we were both much more "in the mood." No panic attack that time, but we pretty much confirmed that neither of us liked being restrained before or during sex. We both had fantasies about this sort of thing, which is what led us to try it in the first place, but reality proved much different than our imaginations. - For those wondering, they were simple police-style handcuffs, not anything specifically made for bondage play.

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Holy_Schnikes 23

At least you tried it and you both don't like it. Just thinking about doing something like that in bed raises my anxiety but I suffer from PTSD.

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Obey_StudBoii 23

I was thinking if you suffer from PTSD your anxiety could have triggered it OP. I have PTSD from a car accident (we went 6 ft in the air then flipped over 3 times) and I have a hard time just getting on the freeway since that's where it happened. Good luck

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Epikouros 31

That's cool, OP. Sometimes a fantasy should remain a fantasy. Like my dream of being raped by a police horse during a riot.

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elizacandle 29

That's awesome that you guys were able tto communicate and try something new and further communicate that it wasn't for you, just enjoy sex the way you want!

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evan_7899 28

wow do you like communicating lol

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ottokat 15

At least now you both know your limits, and you were able to work things out. I am glad to hear that you are still together - without having to be handcuffed together.

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MissCharlotte_fml 26

I'm glad you two are still together :) Screw everyone who said that you should break up. Also, 114, your commdnt made me laugh far too much

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luckygirl25582 8

Assuming you two have been together for 2-3 years since this happened and also assuming that you guys waited 1-2 years before having sex WHY HAVEN'T YOU MARRIED HER YET?!?!?

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jellenwood 35

Glad you all are still together. You have a strong relationship. Wish you all the best!

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notalwaysbesta 14

It's not for everyone...

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baconofthepan 7

Something I can relate, neither my gf or I are really dominant, so it's fun practicing being the "dominant" one, plus it'll help further build your relationship. Also if you're into handcuff AND blindfold

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junpeiIori 17

Welp, guess you shouldn't try to reverse the positions

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Quid_Pro_Quo 1

Poor girl. You can save money and be more safe by buying cheap Dollar Store cuffs, or kids cuffs. Those have keys too, but they also have emergency latches on the sides in case you lose the keys. If you pass out on your locked up partner, the cheap plastic can be easily broken.

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