Today, my girlfriend and I attempted some bondage for the first time. Within seconds of the handcuffs being put on, I went into a serious panic attack. I was playing the dominant; my girlfriend was the one in cuffs. FML
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Hey, OP here. Here are some more details, for those curious: - All FMLs must begin with the word "Today", but this actually happened a couple of years ago. My GF and I are still together. - Yes, it was a full-blown panic attack, and the only one I've ever had in my life. Never having experienced one before, I thought it was something like a heart attack. What got edited out of the FML was that we actaully called paramedics and I ended up in emergency. - We got the handcuffs off and some normal clothes on my GF (I was already fully clothed) before the paramedics arrived, so there was no need for embarrassing explanations. For a minute though, it was a real concern. - I still don't know what exactly the trigger was. Both my GF and I were pretty nervous and weren't really enjoying ourselves. (We should have stopped when it was clear that neither of us really wanted to continue, but we figured we would try anyway.) I think her anxiety contributed to mine, eventually leading to the panic attack. - We *did* try again a few weeks afterward, when we were both much more "in the mood." No panic attack that time, but we pretty much confirmed that neither of us liked being restrained before or during sex. We both had fantasies about this sort of thing, which is what led us to try it in the first place, but reality proved much different than our imaginations. - For those wondering, they were simple police-style handcuffs, not anything specifically made for bondage play.
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RoboCunnilingus 23
It's good you guys were spicing things up, and now you know your limits and that next time you should show some... Restraint.
Welshite 40
As long as you have the key you are fine. Pro-tip: start panicking when the key is gone.
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flashback.miss 28
Nice to be adventurous but pace yourself :)
missrebecca3 8
**** you really have to change your picture ... it's disgusting on so many levels
RonnieG 10
should have started with corsets and whips, then eased your way in. no pun intended.
bach2121 13
Grow some balls
Grayness_ 26
I agree with 18' if you not familiar with it don't try it unless you want. A panic attack tho ?... Smh.
raww77 12
he s right grow some balls
ottokat 15
OP, were you freaking out because of a fear that she might be stuck in them, or get hurt? If that's the case, then it's a rational panic attack, even if a bit undue. I'm going to assume you're exaggerating when you say panic attack. Next time, get fluffy pink handcuffs. I'm serious - they remind you that it's not real or dangerous, and to have fun.
termin8tor786 10
Thank you Dr. Phil!
TheDrifter 24
Ok, handcuffs are out, next up is either shibari, latex or sensory deprivation. Don't give up yet OP, there is much fun to be had, even with your limitations.
Iceman225 11
Wuss.
olpally 33
Just do it after you've calmed down. Or try something else? Lol. Good luck
crisanba 18
Why?
jkmartinjk 16
Yeah OP, explain yourself.
Enslaved 38
I can see that happening. You're put in the spot light to be the aggressor when you may not have the personally to take control. That's like someone out of the blue saying, "Talk dirty to me!" Ummmmmm
chris4u2nv5 19
So there was two ******* in the room?
raww77 12
this comment made my day