Does she realize that she contradicted her own statement?

I hope so

She hasn't though. I'm pushing my assumptions here, but it could easily be read as "OP isn't good at working with others and taking on advice, so until he can do that on his own she's going to have to work on the project too". Besides, giving advice and taking advice are different things - OP and his boss have different roles in the company so they can't really play by the same rules. It's completely reasonable for a boss to give advice on how an employee works and not take said advice themselves if they have different tasks and working environments.

She actually didn't, she was supposedly insulting, but that's it

Umm? so how you supposed to learn?

Taking work smarter, not harder to a whole new level.

It's good advice. Delegating work is important, but you need to make sure those people are going to do their part as you need them to. If you learn what your boss wants done and how they want it done they soon will just ask you to do it and trust you will do it right.

This is actually a good lesson from your boss

This is actually a good lesson from your boss

"Yeah, no. Either you do it yourself or let me do it, I'm not a puppet for you to use at your leisure."

Lol. I don't know about you, but everywhere I've worked, we had to do to things how our bosses wanted and when they wanted. I might not go as far as calling myself a puppet, but I've been as close to puppet as a human could get.

That's a good way to get fired.

my brain is in a knot haha

Wow!!

Did you know your company conducts random AI tests? Those paradoxes can be nasty on a core.

This statement is false.