By Anonymous - 17/05/2014 19:33 - United States - Fresno
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#14. "sexual perversion in which children are the preferred sexual object" the definition of pedofilia, so technically speaking this would be pedofilia. But in common thinking it's not. And a 4 year difference honestly isn't that bad. And incest, no, there's no blood relation. OP just let the kids be kids but make sure to explain to the the "abnormal" view in society on this. Normally kids that young are not able to feel "true" love, but it does happen. And as strange as it may seem to you and others, if it really is true love, who's to judge them? Just let them be happy, i'm sure they'll get over it, and if they don't and it becomes a long term thing, let it be.
As i read it, #14 didn't claim that it was incest, he was just commenting on #11. My concern about this is the possibility that the relationship doeant doesn't work, then they will be stuck together in the same family and possibly making it hard to live together. I don't say its smart, but if they really want to be together I dont see anything stopping them, except a not well thought out plan about this. But then again, they are 15 and 12.
It is incest... Well in Australia it is. Once they're married (the parents), the siblings are considered brother and sister, so it is considered incestuous under the law. Lucky for OP most kids relationships don't work out but that's going to make things exceptionally awkward in the household!
The kids could be in love, who are we to judge their feelings? My parents started dating then my mom was 13 and dad was 14, and they just celebrated their 38th weeding anniversery a few days ago. And for those that say it is incest and it is disgusting here's something to think about: a couple named Jack and Jill get married. At the wedding are their parents, Jack's divorced dad and Jill's widowed mother. Jack's dad and Jill's mom fall in love and a few years later they marry. Jack and Jill are now brother and sister, so should their marriage now be annulled and they move apart? Even though they got married first?
I'm quite surprised at how many people are convinced it's an FML on OPs part, and how many assume that because they are kids, they don't understand love and it won't work out. Seeing as OP and her soon to be husband are both divorced, with children, OP is in no place to be judging the validity or seriousness of her kids "love" on comparison to her own. I started dating my fiancé when I was 12 and he was 17. It was not a popular decision by any means. Maybe it runs in the fam as my mother was 19 and my father 39 when they met. Point is, our society condemns relationships like this although they've been happening naturally for 30 000 god damn years. Grow up. Its pretty clear when an underage kid is being taken advantage of by someone much older. This isn't the same thing. As far as the incest claim goes; they are not blood related, they will be step siblings, and step siblings have intimate relationships all the time.
According to Wikipedia - "Incest is sexual activity between family members or close relatives.This typically includes sexual activity between people in a consanguineousrelationship (blood relations), and sometimes those related by affinity, such as members of the samehousehold, step relatives, those related by adoptionor marriage, or members of the same clan orlineage." Do you see "step relatives"? It's considered incest.
You could have simply checked the definition of incest on an online dictionary. "sexual intercourse between persons so closely related that they are forbidden by law to marry; also : the statutory crime of such a relationship" -Merriam Webster It is legal for step siblings to marry each other in the US, therefore it is not incest.
Don't get your panties in a twist when you don't know the full story. A lot of websites do not load, and too many ads pop up. It's too frustrating for me. Not to mention my satellite WiFi tends to not load all things, no matter what I try. And I searched the definition of incest, Wikipedia was one of the few sites that appeared for once and loaded.
In the end and in Lehman's fucking terms, no its not wrong for non-related persons to develop feelings for each other. No, its not wrong for them to marry each other depending on whatever LEGAL STRUCTURE or CONSTITUTION they're under. All you are arguing is your opinion, which everyone has but its pretty pessimistic hence the backlash. Court adjourned, sentence will be refraining from commenting before thinking for at least 3 days.
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I don't think the age is the main concern. Adults are married all the time 3 years or more apart. The issue is the incest.
Age is one of the main reasons. Think of a 6-year age difference between a 33-year-old and a 39-year-old. Not so bad, right? Normal, in fact. Now, think of the same 6-year-age difference between a 13-year-old and a 19-year-old. That's not only forbidden by law, it's wrong, because the 13 year old has barely started maturing and is still a child, while the 19 year old is a legal adult and is almost completely done with maturing. Now I know 3 years isn't 6 years, but the problem isn't the literal gap, it's the relation to the age of the two. And it's wrong. OP, just tell your son to find someone his own age.
Oh wow that's not going to work out
That's one way of keeping it in the family