given the date, was probably for valentine's day so not so 'intrusive', mediocre nancy drew.

Why not arrange a date instead of just “surprising” people?

I know you try to be funny by saying the "different" things, but it really just doesn't work half the time.

I actually agree with you. I've never been okay with the whole "surprise" thing. Too much chance that they may already have plans

ScarletteEve, I wasn't trying to be funny this time. I find this whole surprise thing annoying. I find the prospect of a surprise party horrifying! If your friends and family can conspire behind your back for a fun purpose, they could do it just as easily for a bad one.

So you bash someone trying to something sweet when she found out her bf is a cheater? You have your priorities backwards.

surprises can be bad or good depending on the person and how they personally feel about surprises. I think the other person in the relationship is the only one who can determine if it would be a good or bad thing. but either way, while it sucks this happened, at least she found out. now she gets to stop wasting her time on a pig that probably would have never even told her about the infidelity had she not walked in.

Mynxie, I did no such thing. I just pointed out how some of us find surprises annoying or worse.

Agree!