By Dillyduzit - 20/10/2012 18:50 - Australia - Brunswick

Today, I tried to tell my best friend how wrong she is to be dating a married man, whose wife happens to be pregnant with their first child. Our talk ended with her calling me a "meddling, frigid bitch" and me being told this is why I can't get laid. FML
I agree, your life sucks 30 235
You deserved it 2 812

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Dillyduzit 23

OP here. It's been three years since the incident, and I finally took the time to read all the comments and figured I can now do a complete follow-up. My best friend and I were in our senior year of high school, and the married man she was seeing was a few years older than us. I didn't know him or his wife. Basically, the guy had a long-term girlfriend who he left because he moved across the country, where he met my best friend. She dated him and lost her virginity to him, so he was her "first love" and that whole deal. He went back to his old town to visit friends and family, slept with his ex, and then came back to my best friend who didn't know. He found out his ex was pregnant, dumped my best friend, and married his ex who moved across the country to be with him and raise their family. My best friend was heartbroken, but I guess he was telling her that he still loved her and was only married to his wife because she was pregnant, but he would eventually leave his wife for her. She- being vulnerable and young- believed it and kept seeing him. Looking out for my friend's best interests, I tried to tell her that what she was doing was wrong- not just for the wife and kid, but for herself, because he obviously was using her and had no intentions of leaving his pregnant wife. She didn't like what I was saying and essentially told me to **** off. I didn't tell the wife (even though I wanted to) because I didn't know her and didn't need my best friend to be mad at me. I was kind of afraid of her because she has a very aggressive personality and I've always been very passive. But anyway, she eventually found someone else and ended things with the cheating asshole. It took some time though. Nevertheless, her and I are still friends. We dropped the "best" though and I keep her at arm's length because new incidents have arisen throughout the past couple of years that made me realize she doesn't deserve my friendship. Karma also helped a girl out and I'm happily married while she still searches for someone who will love her despite the fact that she's crazy. And you best believe I've been keeping my husband far away from her. Thanks for reading! Sorry this was so long.

Top comments

Tell her at least you're not so desperate to get laid that you'd chase after people who are already taken.

She's the bitch.... But I'm sure you put yourself out there you will get laid!

Comments

DonnaM0608 0

Don't women have morals and standards these days? Why would you ever want to be the other woman? And ladies, have some class! Don't date married losers! Drop that friend like a bad habit.

Tell the guys wife that he's cheating on her

OP, you did the honorable thing. Just step back from your friend and watch her situation implode. She will possibly see that you had her best interest in mind. In the end, you get to tell her "I told you so". Good luck and stay your course!

ViviMage 38

Some men don't know how to handle a pregnant wife and intimacy. They would rather have things back to what they were before the pregnancy, either in wife shape or the woman not feeling sick. Perhaps commitment to a baby coming up. Personally my father cheated on my mom ruining the marriage and much of my childhood. I could see WHY cheating on a pregnant wife might be appealing but I would not support the friend.

this is not the kind of person youvwant in your life is it? leave and find better friends.

OP should have told her that she doesn't need to be a ***** to get laid. Your friend will end up alone anyway when the guy decides to stay with his wife, or she'll end up being with an unfaithful man. Either way you win. At least you tried, but people like that aren't worth helping. Hope everything turns out okay OP!

what happened to morals and values ? I'd cut communication with that "friend"cause they obviously aren't good to be around , and she could do the same to you one day .

And the only way she can get laid is by sleeping with a married man whose wife is pregnant. I'm sure you could get laid too if you lowered your standards to hers.

Call the guy's wife and tell on the *****.