By rejected - 02/10/2014 08:56 - United Kingdom - Harlow
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Aww OP! Don't feel bad for something that's out of your control!
#1 they seem out of control as long as we fear them but if we make a decent effort OP can overcome her anxiety. OP it's all in the mind, even if the pills would help, you would be dependent on them and have a fear that you cannot do without them. Try meditation and means to be confident
#60, I used to think like you til it became a problem for me. You don't understand how it feels. It's not something you can just 'snap out of' or 'think more confidently' to get over it. It really is quite debilitating. Really sorry for you OP. Hope you can find a job where they are more understanding.
Pretty unfair from his behalf. Hopefully it all works out though
I agree with 11, if it's any sort of retail job or waitressing or serving someone/dealing with customers, than the boss is going to assume Op is too nervous/shy to talk to their customers and won't be able to handle stressful situations. Don't worry Op, there will be a job out there for you. You may want to see a doctor or psychiatrist as well to try getting your anxiety under control (if you aren't already). If the anxiety is that disruptive to your life then consider getting help for it.
think of it this way; do you want to work with a manager like that anyway? there's tons of other places. I have anxiety and when I got my first job I was EXTREMELY shy. but after working for awhile I got over it! there is hope for you OP. don't worry. you'll be okay :)
People think you can just stop worrying with the drop of a hat. If it was that easy don't you think people would do it? No one wants to feel anxiety. It's horrible. I have it so bad I can't sleep at night and experience panic attacks. When people say "just stop worrying" I seriously want to punch them in the face. That's like telling someone with anorexia to "just eat more".
Wow, that's terrible OP. You should explain your history of anxiety problems with him and how you've made improvements. Hopefully he will be more understanding then.
But it doesn't sound like there's been much improvement, or if there has it doesn't sound like enough for the boss to want to hire Op. I think Op may want to consider getting help for their anxiety issues and maybe have a family member or friend prep you for an interview so hopefully it will be less nerve-racking for you op.
You should try applying for a job where it won't be too much of a problem...so not a yoga instructor
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Where does it say that OP was applying to be a yoga instructor? On another note: Don't worry OP, while yes it's very hard to over come anxiety problems it can be done. Just try to do little things that are outside your comfort zone and work your way up. I wish you lots of luck in your future! :)
That's kind of a dick move. You can't really stop being nervous. It just happens or it doesn't. Sorry about your anxiety issues OP, I hope you can get a great job.
Everyone is nervous at an interview, but it sounds like this was a lot more than the typical nervousness everyone has. Personally I don't think the interviewer was being a jerk. I think he was trying to give op another chance and let her know that he can't hire her if she's that nervous. I think a jerk interviewer would've decided not to hire her right away, cut the interview short, & written her off. At least this interviewer was trying to get her to calm down a bit. It sounds like he wanted to hire her, but couldn't in good conscience if she continued to be that nervous. (I'm assuming genders to make sentence structure sound better)