A dish best served cold

By Joblessagain - 08/07/2021 18:01

Today, I used one of my ex-coworkers as a reference. She gave a really bad review about me, causing me to miss out on the job opportunity of a lifetime, all because she’s still upset I wore the same dress as her at the company holiday gala 2 years ago. FML
I agree, your life sucks 971
You deserved it 266

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Are you sure that’s why your co-worker gave you a bad recommendation? That seems unlikely. In the future before submitting references talk to the person beforehand and confirm that they would be willing to be a reference for you. If you sense hesitancy, use someone else.

buddhist_babe88 5

depends on where you are from, burning used to be a hiring manager, we are legally not allowed to say thing bad about someone for that exact reason, when asked questions and we aren't able to answer positively, all we are allowed to say is "no comment".

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Are you sure that’s why your co-worker gave you a bad recommendation? That seems unlikely. In the future before submitting references talk to the person beforehand and confirm that they would be willing to be a reference for you. If you sense hesitancy, use someone else.

buddhist_babe88 5

depends on where you are from, burning used to be a hiring manager, we are legally not allowed to say thing bad about someone for that exact reason, when asked questions and we aren't able to answer positively, all we are allowed to say is "no comment".

angeleyes0724 8

That is correct but she explicitly used them as her own personal reference which means the employer can ask whatever they want and the reference can answer how they see fit.

buddhist_babe88 5

she used them as a work reference, if she's qualified for the job, hence why they likely called her in for an interview and called her references, then that person who gave an ill advised reference can actually be held accountable and potentially be sued for this person not getting the job, especially if the co-worker knew she may have been a great worker, hence the no comment. which is an appropriate response if you have a poopy employee, because there's liabilities if you vengefully give a bad reference based on emotion and whether or not you liked the person regardless of their work ethics