By btoker - 15/10/2015 16:16 - United States - New York

Today, I opened up to my boyfriend about being sexually abused in the past. He said it explains why I'm "such a bitch" when it comes to personal contact. FML
I agree, your life sucks 29 043
You deserved it 2 324

btoker tells us more.

Hi guys, OP here. He is my ex now, because I decided that his aggressive undertones means I might be in for a repeat. He is pretty aggressive in general, and this is one of a few examples so its probably best to move on before its too late. I'm 22 years old and was abused at 16, so he doesn't understand how I couldn't be over it by now. I'm currently looking for other places to live because we live together. Thank you all for the positive support, I am going to try to get myself into a better situation as fast as I can.

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He's a douchebag and I seriously hope that you dumped him. Sorry for what you went through, OP!!

What happened to you wasn't your fault, get rid of him

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seems like some one should be single. sorry OP males suck

He's a douchebag and I seriously hope that you dumped him. Sorry for what you went through, OP!!

Yeah, because that's not okay.

That is the kind of guy who would leave you in a heartbeat for a "newer" model

Some guys are just idiots and don't think before they open their mouth, that does not make them shallow.

So just because he didn't think, that makes judging her and showing no compassion to her situation okay?

yes exactly, in fact it should be the norm. (before I get downvoted because someone didnt understand, yes that was sarcasm)

#31 I did not defend OPs ex, I was simply saying lack of sympathy does not equate to shallowness

Wowww that's terrible I'm really sorry.. He must not understand

What happened to you wasn't your fault, get rid of him

amileah13 26

He obviously doesn't understand the impact you've had from it. He's a prick, don't listen to him op. I'm sorry for what's happened to you and good luck in the future. Hopefully you can find someone a lot more understanding than him

He's an asshat. dump him and find a great therapist. Good luck OP.

What an asshole. Honestly if you stay with him that's shame on you because I bet you deserve so much better

Red_Curls1995 28

Get rid of him. Immediately.

When I opened up to my boyfriend, who is now my husband, he suggested that we take it slow and didn't rush me into anything. At the time he was a 19 year old with raging hormones. If your boyfriend can't be patient with you and won't accept that you will have sex with him at the times you feel comfortable, I think you should consider leaving him. There are plenty of men out there who will understand and make sure you are comfortable. Good luck, OP.

Your husband is wonderful!

Thank you. I think so, too.