By Anonymous - 05/01/2016 15:04 - United Kingdom - Sheffield
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I get the idea of sending something anonymously, but what is it supposed to say? "You're getting fired." If I got an anonymous letter telling me that my job was in jeopardy I'd think someone was playing a prank. If I got an email I'd attribute it to spam. I think OP should just hardcore discourage the friend from getting the apt and maybe casually ask if the friend has a backup plan/savings in case they lose their job.
I agree. In fact, if it was my best friend, I wouldn't hesitate to immediately tell him in person. Nobody's going to find out I told him anything because he won't do anything other than back out of the apartment fiasco and start looking for a new job. Plus, if he was quitting, they'd expect a 2-weeks notice but they'd never show him the same courtesy.
Do it confidentially. Tell him not to expose the fact that you said it. Its probably a good way out of it. Buy FYL tho.
Agreed. It's not a fun situation by any stretch of the imagination, but I don't know why everyone's acting like there's nothing OP can do. It's not a random acquaintance, it's OP's best friend. Surely OP can explain why they need to tell them, but why it must be kept secret otherwise. I'm sure the friend would understand. If it was the other way round I'd be SO grateful I wasn't about to completely fuck myself financially. I certainly wouldn't be impressed if I signed a contract, got fired and then found out my 'best friend' knew all along.
Confidentially or not, they LEGALLY can't say anything. If OP were to say anything, their friend wouldn't be the only one losing their job and OP would also likely be sued, on top of it. You'd rather them both be jobless? If that happened, then OP wouldn't even be able to help their friend at all. I'm not saying OP should do nothing but those saying they should tell their friend are giving very bad advice. Instead of warning them about being fired, they should try to talk them out of getting this new apartment. Additionally, they'd (probably) be able to apply for unemployment as well as get a severance check. If OP were to tell their friend, they'd likely not be able to apply for unemployment or get a severance check since they would have breached the contract. In fact, it's actually possible that OP could get in trouble for telling us, even if it's anonymous - you CAN track an IP address, you know.
#103, my computer-whiz friend, very nicely, tried tracking an IP for me when someone (who knew me personally and was from our town) was harassing me online anonymously; after I told her I didn't care, she still tried to figure out their IP. It turns out it's a difficult, costly and time consuming process. Unless the CEO of the place literally hires someone to trawl through the web all day and GUESSES who or who not may be an employee of their firm, talking about confidential information (on a site like FML) and then spend a long time to check the IP to find it was written on a public computer or someone else completely in a different part of the world and all that resource is then wasted. The only way the company would know, essentially, is if the OP wrote the FML on their WiFi network at work, which I imagine they wouldn't because I know some companies (my Secondary School even did it, when we weren't supposed to know the WiFi code and the Principle wanted proof) who check the logs of what device was on the WiFi network and what sites they visited. I think the OP is safe...
I agree with you, 5. everyone who says OP isn't a bad friend are probably bad friends themselves. OP doesn't have to announce that they broke confidentiality to the whole world--WTF? they're best friends! OP can take their friend aside outside of work, privately and say "hey bro, I heard you're gonna get fired and for obvious reasons it can't come back that I was the one that said so; I think you should rethink that apartment. sorry..." bunch of non-friend-helping bastards, the lot of you.
Dumb af aren't u #5. If the Friend being fired was a true friend he wouldn't risk his best friends job just because he is getting fired. When the other Friend loses his job then the good friend with a job will help him out probably by letting him stay at his house until he finds new job