Today, I came out as bisexual to my friends via group message. They didn't respond; I had a panic attack. An hour later, one of my friends texted back, "k". FML
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adirom 14
Thanks for all your support (or lack there of in some cases) for those of you wondering why I told them over text, my friends and I are very close and have a group message with just the 4 of us, the topic came up and I took the opportunity. I have social anxiety, and decided for the sake of my sanity that would work best. And after my one friend replied "k" there were multiple texts saying they supported me and didn't think of me any differently (which was my worry). So it all turned out for the best! To all of y'all who think being bisexual isn't a big deal, coming out regardless is a big deal. So please try and open your mind to how difficult it is to stray from social norms!
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Enslaved 38
Their silence probably means they're "k" with it. Just as long as you're happy with whom you are.
Tthug 34
Gay is the new norm. It's not even cool to come out as gay anymore. The real edgy people are coming out as ebola victims.
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c0untblah 4
To be honest what can you say to someone who comes out as bi over a mass text and out of the blue. The best you can hope for is a "k", from them. Maybe next time choose a better setting if this response isn't something your satisfied with.
knoxxx 22
I mean generally I don't expect big news via group text message. Maybe they didn't think it was a big deal anyways, and since you came out in such a nonchalant manner, they thought it was even less of a big deal. Don't worry, OP, it seems your friends don't particularly care what your sexual orientation is.
TheyCallMeDamien 18
You don't text that. That's more of a personal conservation. Some are probably okay with it while others don't know how to make heads or tails of it.
notsoanonymous3 20
At least there "k" with it : )
badblaby 8
Why even bother? No one probably cares what your sexual orientation is. Wouldn't your friends eventually get clued in once they saw you with males and females?
pharm121 21
I think that it proves that they don't care. Like you could be gay, lesbian, bi, purple or red and they're just like..."ok you're still our friend." Honestly I think it's a great reaction.
basicallyme247 1
Must be super close "friends" if you bulk messaged them all this "big" news...
adirom 14
Thanks for all your support (or lack there of in some cases) for those of you wondering why I told them over text, my friends and I are very close and have a group message with just the 4 of us, the topic came up and I took the opportunity. I have social anxiety, and decided for the sake of my sanity that would work best. And after my one friend replied "k" there were multiple texts saying they supported me and didn't think of me any differently (which was my worry). So it all turned out for the best! To all of y'all who think being bisexual isn't a big deal, coming out regardless is a big deal. So please try and open your mind to how difficult it is to stray from social norms!
theaaxis 27
We have anxiety and orientation in common, kudos to your bravery from someone who knows what that's like! After I told the first friend (over text as well) it took me a full two years to tell the rest, it's a scary thing!
MzZombicidal 36
Coming out as bisexual can be just as difficult as coming out as gay/lesbian. I had a hard time coming out to my mom because she felt you were either gay or straight and that there was no in between. She eventually came around and we're closer than ever, but it was a pretty bumpy road... I'm proud of you, OP, and I'm so happy you have support from your friends! :)
Arwen_Evenstar 37
Considering people think it's a phase, you can't decide, don't want to admit you're homosexual or are trying to be cool or rebel, I think bisexual nay be harder. Even the gassy community can be weird about people being bisexual.
foxwasalamb 24
sucks that people even have to "come out" like youre in hiding or something. im pansexual, and almost nobody i know understands what that means. ive personally never been forced or felt the need to "come out", i just wish other people could have the same experience. might be as easy for them as it was for me
BellaBear90 27
#161 I'm chuckling at the thought of the "gassy" community judging op :D
pinkster2014 25
166 - I know the difference between pansexual and bisexual, but why would one prefer one over the other?
lordofpantry 8
We need to change social norms so people won't have to feel pressured or nervous. This is why we need to eradicate old white people
Foxy_On_Fire 21
Try coming out the broom closet
DoubleDosexo 12
I came out at 12... it wasn't that big of a deal for me. granted, I'm not bisexual and I'm actually pansexual. being bisexual just means you'll lick a ****** and penis essentially. so why should anybody look at you differently? yes, I know there's more to it than that.
DoubleDosexo 12
180, if you're asking why people "prefer" one or the Other, then you don't know the difference. that'd be like asking why people prefer being straight over gay. a sexuality isn't a preference therefore it can't be "preferred". however, a lesbian might prefer butch women.
skitzymew 19
I'm so happy that I never really had to "come out". It kind of slipped out one day, and my parents didn't seem to care. The horror stories startled me, but my older cousin came out as gay a few years before I came out as pansexual, so it kind of loosened everyone up I think.
fantasyworld 39
Kudos to you for coming out, I know it's not easy.
marigoldcobain 21
I'm bisexual and extremely awkward and nervous all of the time and it wasn't at all hard to tell a few friends. I hate the word "come out" because it sounds like you really, really need to let everyone know but you don't. If you do, you're an attention ***** because literally nothing would be different except the amount of attention you'd get.
Patlipo 14
Op I think they mean that bisexual isn't a big deal and it shouldn't change anyone's opinion, not coming out being bisexual
JadeOmega 23
I also have anxiety (really bad I might add) and I am pansexual (but I typically say I'm bisexual because it's easier for others to understand) What you did was brave. Some of my friends know, but some don't. The stuggle.
JadeOmega 23
#195 That sounds awesome! I wish I could do that XD
afallingstar 22
Maybe it just wasn't a big deal to them. I mean at least you didn't get a ton of negative and unsupportive comments. Maybe they just accepted it.
YellowKettleBell 31
no matter what the reason, i don't like one letter responses. at least type the ******* o
Astrum14 24
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