By faitesdesgosses - 19/05/2014 14:27 - France - Mantes-la-ville
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you might have a little bit of trouble getting her completely out of the nest lol on the other hand when kids get older they normally want to leave immediately.
In a textbook I had it said that spanking has only been proven to cause mental and emotional problems later in life, and that there's actually no solid proof that it helps them to have better behavior when they're older. It only temporarily causes them to act the way you want. I guess that's why quite a few countries actually have anti-spanking laws, and the countries who have them are doing very well.
Spanking a child only works if the child can see the connection between their behavior and the spanking. I'm not sure I can see a connection between what the child said and a need for a spanking. What would that teach her? That mom/dad don't want to hear what she thinks? A spanking would be a bad move in this situation.
She is only seven and may not understand the relationship between real world job, etc.... My daughter wanted to be a nutcracker when she grew up. I thought she meant a ballerina, but she wanted to be the kind that cracked nuts. Now at 20, she's in school majoring in Bio-mechanical engineering. Hopefully, she's not just going to apply her skills to making a better nutcracker, but at least she'll have some skills. Kids idea of the world evolve continuously, so there's no need to be alarmed unless she keeps expressing the same ideals well into middle school and teens
I was spanked as a child by both parents and I always knew the connection between what I did wrong and the punishment. However, as I got older the punishments got abusive. Smacks to the face just because they got pissed, grabbing my face, shoving me into wall corners, calling me stupid/bitch/slut, etc. I don't know how long it'll take me to forgive my parents for the verbal, mental, and physical abuse. Spanking isn't abusive, however I'm not saying at ALL that I agree with #3! Just giving another side. :)
I believe that spanking is a very effective form of punishment. my sisters and I were spanked by both my parents while my older step brother was never spanked a day in his life. To this day my sisters and I have a far more accurate idea of what right and wrong is compared to most people. I have never been in trouble at school, and have an amazing connection with all my parents.I have respect for them.. im 17 and have only been grounded twice since I have been in high school. My stepbrother on the otherhand, rebeled at the age of 16. He got busted with drugs and my stepdad did everything in his power to help him, but by then it was too late. Nothing worked. Never have I been beat or verbally assulted. That is terrible. But I would just like to say me and my sisters are very greatful that we were spanked at an early age. My parents always explained why before hand, and always hugged us afterward. It pays to discipline early on, so you can avoid a bratty teenager later. I'm just adding another perspective.
Then teach her differently, it's your job as a parent to inspire her to want to be more than someone who thinks it's ok to sponge on their parents their whole life.
She's 7, for goodness sake; I seriously doubt this is what she's going to do as an adult. It falls more into the "Kids say the darnedest things" category. Hell, when my daughter was 7, she told me I could live with her when I was old and gray. I might have to live in the basement, but she would help me up and down the stairs. Her father made the mistake of trying to gain sympathy, and asked if he could live with her too. She looked him straight in the eye and said, "Nah, we'll probably just stick you in a Home." Did I reprimand her? I couldn't, I was trying too hard not to laugh.