By elizabethkalyn - United States - Vincennes
Today, at work, a customer asked me to unlock the restroom for them. I honestly couldn't figure out which gender they were, but I didn't want to be rude and ask, so I took a chance. I unlocked the wrong one. FML
elizabethkalyn tells us more :
Couple of things. I couldn't have unlocked both, as the doors swing shut and relock as soon as you let them go. The customer was a natural born woman who looked and sounded a lot like a male. When they asked why I opened the men's, I just told them the women's was occupied. I have never made the mistake before and it was mortifying. She luckily was very cool about it:) also, both restrooms use the same key.
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By  pntgirl95  |  14

I would have pretended I unlocked the wrong one without realizing it. Like "oh it's been a long day I wasn't even paying attention to which bathroom I was unlocking!"

  TorturedXeno  |  27

I think OP couldn't tell the person's physical sex, which in some cases is understandable.
Now, what GENDER (yes, there is a difference) he/she identifies as may not be so obvious on the outside. So I don't blame OP for getting that wrong.

  Kamon97  |  23

Well it's their fault for not looking like their gender

  Mynamewontfi  |  40

#85 That's not always foolproof. The index finger on my right hand is smaller, but on my left hand they're pretty much the same length. Also know a lot of females who were born with a smaller indexfinger.

  pinkster2014  |  25

I can see it now... "Today, I walked into some place to use their restroom. However, I needed a key to get in. The lady that went to open the door for me opened the door to the girl's room. I'm a guy. FML" (or something like that xD)

By  WhatsOpTic  |  11

That would be very awkward FYL. But honestly they know how they dress and how they look so they really shouldn't get mad at people for confusing their genders. They're the ones who cause it by how they look. Not trying to judge and be a dick but people who dress look that way shouldn't get upset it was an honest mistake.

  Jiplo  |  18

Agreed. And if you have to take a chance, I would say guess female. Typically, from my experiences, if there is any question what gender a male is, he is someone who doesn't care all that much about the way he looks. I'm only making an observation based on what I have personally encountered, so I am liable to be misled.

  HotRose  |  18

I'm sure OP apologized.

Honestly, the best way out of a situation like this is to joke. Laugh and say "I'm guessing you'd want to go into the girls one then." If it was a guy, they would laugh and shake their head no, and say "Yeah.". If it's a woman, they would be puzzled and say, "Uh, yeah."

The woman would think your weird, but at least you didn't make her feel down on herself; the guy would think you're juvenile.

This still may not work, and they may say nothing, especially if they are older. If all else failed I would unlock both, and walk away. Why should I feel awkward? Don't let yourself be a victim of social awkwardness, OP.

By  tigerisabelle  |  31

While that sucks, next time you could just either give them the key or usher them ahead to the door so they can point it out? I guess there isn't really a best way to do this. FYL

By  pntgirl95  |  14

I would have pretended I unlocked the wrong one without realizing it. Like "oh it's been a long day I wasn't even paying attention to which bathroom I was unlocking!"

  buttcramp  |  21

you should do some research in the LGBT community. I have a friend who is physically female but mentally male and hasn't started testosterone treatments yet so he is always referred to as "she" and he can't help that he has a feminine figure, but it causes a lot of self hatred and people who don't understand just make it worse.

  TheDrifter  |  23

41, but that wouldn't matter here, as in most cases the law still regards physical sex as the determiner for public restroom facilities, not inner gender identity.

  telli164  |  30

#41 That's nice.
I had a friend in school who looked like a male. She was always referred to as a boy, told to line up in the boys line. She would simply correct them and say she was a girl. It's an honest mistake. Life goes on

  daisiebud  |  18

#58 A lot of transgender people look like their gender, not their biological sex. Especially if they take hormones. So if someone who looks like a guy goes into the girls bathroom, he's gonna get yelled at, even if he has a vagina. And for people whose biological sex is male but who identify as women, they risk getting beat up if they go into the guys bathroom. It happens. Really, which bathroom you're supposed to go into isn't based on your gender OR sex. It's based on which gender you look like. Which is why it's so important to have gender neutral bathrooms available.