This pandemic hit some of us harder than others

By Anonymous - 22/12/2021 20:01

Today, I've had to accept that, despite my efforts to stay in touch with the few friends I made at college, I have zero friends. FML
I agree, your life sucks 898
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Our life tends to run in stages. While it is great to try to stay in touch with old friends from school, it’s every bit as important to make a few friends in your current stage of life. Old friends are treasures, but in reality we tend to drift apart. Sometimes that even happens with family. I know it’s tough now to socialize with an ongoing pandemic. I suggest looking into online groups (Facebook and others) organized around an interest you have or that you want to explore - But for God’s sake and your own sanity stay away from politics and polarizing subjects! And if your locale has similar groups and activities still ongoing that that’s even better. Be sure to understand the rules of the groups as some are a bit picky. Remember that while it is nice to make friends at work, do not rely on those as close friends. Sometimes people are acting out of “office politics” and may betray anything you share if it’s to their advantage. Most people at work are “associates” and not “friends” though there are exceptions. For good or bad, Holidays can either be difficult or heartwarming times. For people with close families that get along, seeing them and friends can bring back good memories. For people dealing with depression and loneliness the expectations of the holidays can make things seem much worse in comparison to the world they wish they had. Know that you are not the only one who feels this way at these times.

Chazzster is 100% correct. I personally found that college friends tended to drift off and then 1 or 2 popped back up 5-10 years later to catch up. I know it can feel disconcerting cause uni friends can feel so close but it happens to almost everyone. Definitely take the above advice and look for new friends for this stage in life. I personally found having a dog and walking her in the close by dog park an insanely easy way to begin chatting with people and eventually forming a friendship (even better cause they’re neighbours as well).

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Our life tends to run in stages. While it is great to try to stay in touch with old friends from school, it’s every bit as important to make a few friends in your current stage of life. Old friends are treasures, but in reality we tend to drift apart. Sometimes that even happens with family. I know it’s tough now to socialize with an ongoing pandemic. I suggest looking into online groups (Facebook and others) organized around an interest you have or that you want to explore - But for God’s sake and your own sanity stay away from politics and polarizing subjects! And if your locale has similar groups and activities still ongoing that that’s even better. Be sure to understand the rules of the groups as some are a bit picky. Remember that while it is nice to make friends at work, do not rely on those as close friends. Sometimes people are acting out of “office politics” and may betray anything you share if it’s to their advantage. Most people at work are “associates” and not “friends” though there are exceptions. For good or bad, Holidays can either be difficult or heartwarming times. For people with close families that get along, seeing them and friends can bring back good memories. For people dealing with depression and loneliness the expectations of the holidays can make things seem much worse in comparison to the world they wish they had. Know that you are not the only one who feels this way at these times.

Chazzster is 100% correct. I personally found that college friends tended to drift off and then 1 or 2 popped back up 5-10 years later to catch up. I know it can feel disconcerting cause uni friends can feel so close but it happens to almost everyone. Definitely take the above advice and look for new friends for this stage in life. I personally found having a dog and walking her in the close by dog park an insanely easy way to begin chatting with people and eventually forming a friendship (even better cause they’re neighbours as well).

They're overrated. More often than not, they hit you up for shit and support way more than they provide for you. Get a dog.

Go make friends.