While I'm sure it's painful for OP how are you all saying that she didn't deserve him, etc? You have no idea what kind of husband he was. There are two sides and maybe she had a GOOD reason for finding somebody new. People who cheat usually aren't getting what they need at home. I don't know this because I cheat. I know this because i now know why my husband's ex did.

your wife will be happier thats the main part.

Damn Chandler, that sucks.

Better to have found out than not.

She must believe she found an A-soul. ( I know it's irrelevant, but is it a she or a he-soul ? )

If you married her and didn't think she was your soulmate that means there wasn't enough love that's why It gave her an opportunity to fall for hers when she found him. Sorry but truth hurts . Move on

Wow...there was a woman who posted an fml about finding her soul mate after she had been married for a while...

dang..Maybe she is just testing you..no one said it would be easy but if u love her then never give up

Good for both of you. Gor entirely different reasons but it is just a footnote

If she is looking for, finding, or accepting "soul mates" after you two are already married instead of trying to work things out with you so that you could be her soul mate, then you need to leave her sorry ass and take EVERYTHING. Call it cheating in court and don't let her get a dime. See how her soul mate feels about her when she is coming to his/her doorstep with nothing but the clothes on her back. Speaking from experience with my family, you should never be lenient with a spouse that is leaving you for someone else, they'll just take advantage of you.