Today, I got the news that the family who adopted me decided to send me back because I didn't share their MAGA ideals. This is the second family to send me back after the first one decided they couldn't financially take care of me. FML
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Fall
Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, I borrowed my adopted mom's laptop and found out that either her, my dad, or both of them, have been trying to research legal ways of un-adopting me and giving me back to the foster care system. FML
Today, my adoptive parents were harassed yet again simply because they're black and I'm white. FML
Today, my 8 year-old adopted daughter told me she wants me to take her back so another family can adopt her because I don't give her enough toys. FML
Today, I asked my foster parents to adopt me. They said no because my dad's getting out of prison soon. FML
Today, at work I had to handle two selfish parents returning their adopted 6 year-old daughter to foster care because, “She doesn’t, like, fit with our lifestyle, and my mom is, like, too old to babysit her anymore and we, like, can’t afford a nanny.” I hate my job. FML
Today, my mom was screaming at me and said, "I wish I'd never adopted you." I guess I'm adopted then. FML
Today, I found out that my (amazing) adoptive parents are going to be investigated by CPS and no one's telling me why. I'm terrified I'm going to be taken away and end up back in foster care again. FML
Today, after I spent years, and thousands of dollars, searching for my birth father, he changed his mind about adopting me. FML
Today, my parents disowned me because I told them I don’t want kids. FML
Today, I found out the truth about my and my siblings adoptions and why I have no contact with any extended family. Turns out our parents are half-siblings, who decided to adopt rather than risk any genetic anomalies. Their families didn’t approve of the relationship so they moved us far away. FML
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poopface82 25
That is what I would call a bullet dodged.
MidnaLink 35
Y'know what, just be glad to get away from those idiots in the first place. Though, how someone can think it's ok to send an orphan/foster child back is beyond me.
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MidnaLink 35
Y'know what, just be glad to get away from those idiots in the first place. Though, how someone can think it's ok to send an orphan/foster child back is beyond me.
given.sins619 11
I am glad, at times they get scary - but unfortunately being sent back still hurts
poopface82 25
That is what I would call a bullet dodged.
given.sins619 11
it is, but unfortunately it still hurts
1known 34
The legislators who voted the you can sens back the child you’ve adopted law were truly sick.
bleuroze 4
AGREED! Once you adopt a child, that child is supposed to legally be the same as a biological child and you can't just send back a biological child.
Chazzster 32
Horrible situation! OP you definitely have my sympathy… My impression is that in the USA it depends on the state law if adoptions are “reversible” or not. I think most are not reversible once finalized. My ex and I were once foster parents and at one time we had a teenager who had been put in foster care because of the situation between him and his parents. The odd thing was that he had a sibling who had been adopted and he felt like they were loved more than him because his sibling was “chosen” while he was born to them… It’s never wise to argue religion or politics with your parents, adopted or not. You don’t have to echo back their nonsense, but you also don’t have to argue over things that they aren’t likely to change their minds over. Sometimes the wise thing to do is to just not say anything. Occasionally if you are clever you can ask questions that may untimely get them to reconsider false beliefs and assumptions - If you can do so while appearing earnest in wanting to understand and not just as another way of arguing.
given.sins619 11
I never really argued with anyone cuz I wanted to fit in and make a good impression, and tbh I thought I was making progress cuz I been with them for 8 month by then but in the end I wasn't good enough
bleuroze 4
It's always wise to argue over politics. How other people vote affects whether I have rights to control the contents of my uterus.
Vesi 30
On the one hand, incompatibility is a real thing. For OP, it sucks to get sent back but at least they don't have to fear for their lives from these people. OP, good on you for not just taking in whatever cr ap they want to shovel on you and standing up for yourself. I'm sorry they are cancelling your adoption, but I'm glad you are not trapped in a rather unhealthy environment.
Anderling 33
Unfortunately, some people just don’t want to actually raise a child that might (or in this case, did) develop different views and tastes than them, they just want an autonomous mirror. OP, I’m really sorry this happened to you, but please know that this is their mistake and their loss, not a reflection on you. I sincerely hope you will find stability and happiness soon.
given.sins619 11
thank you, i never voiced my thoughts on politics cuz I have no interest in it so most of the time I kept to myself when they asked me something that is obviously wrong - the mother said on multiple occasions that it's a shame since I'm basically a perfect example of an American (blonde, blue eyes, and definitely pale enough) but being a parrot to what they yelled is apparently "stupid" and I'm being an "ungrateful brat"
Earl_KarmasBitch 36
I'm completely mystified as to how people who obviously care so much about immigrants, minorities and and people with different opinions to them can't find it in their hearts to care for a child.
given.sins619 11
cuz I felt like they didn't really care - they wanted mini people like them
RichardPencil 32
******' MAGA poseurs! If they were really The Base, you'd have been issued an AR-15 or two, and then could have pulled off one of those red state massacres that barely make the news.
Taurus_ChicKa 37
If they're MAGA'ers, you don't want to be around them, anyway.