Today, after I spent years, and thousands of dollars, searching for my birth father, he changed his mind about adopting me. FML
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Today, after spending a few weeks getting to know my birth father and thinking he seemed decent, he's realised my adoptive parents aren’t rich and no, I can’t lend him a few grand. Now, he’s vanished and written several nasty Facebook posts about not being able to trust family. FML
Today, I regret letting my adoptive daughter find her biological father because now he's intent on getting her back. He said he never agreed to giving her up for adoption and will do everything in his power to get her. She's terrified. FML
Today, I found my biological father, who I have never met, on facebook and decided to message him. He blocked me. FML
Today, I found out that I was adopted. I'm 46 years old with 11 real siblings and no one bothered to tell me until I found the documents in my dead adoptive father's house. FML
Today, I met my son for the first time since I had to put him up for adoption over two decades ago. I wanted to make amends and get to know him. Instead, all I got to know was how well he can throw a punch. FML
Today, I tracked down my birth dad. He lives in a massive house, with a wife and two kids, 3 cars and a fucking sailboat on the drive. My mom and I grew up in poverty, but I was calm when I confronted him. He had his gardeners throw me into the street like I was inconvenient trash. FML
Today, I located my birth dad and asked him why I was put into care. Turns out my mom died, and since he hadn’t wanted me in the first place, he just gave me away and hoped to never see me again. He didn’t even invite me in, he threw a beer at me and threatened to call the cops unless I left. FML
Today, I met my biological father for the first time. He seemed to be slightly intoxicated from the outset, and less than half an hour later, he had tried to intimidate me into "loaning" him several hundred euros for reasons he wouldn't tell me. So long, "dad". FML
Today, I asked my foster parents to adopt me. They said no because my dad's getting out of prison soon. FML
Today, I'm in the process of adopting a child. When I called my mom to tell her the news, she just said, "Oh honey, don't adopt, it's the worst decision you'll ever make." I'm adopted. FML
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sleepymom1234 7
this makes no sense. 😐
RichardPencil 32
Why would your birth father need to adopt you? He's already your dad, isn't he?
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RichardPencil 32
Why would your birth father need to adopt you? He's already your dad, isn't he?
sleepymom1234 7
this makes no sense. 😐
RichardPencil 32
I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks so. Now I'm curious about whether she has more or less pubic hair than her shared toilet and which outcome is considered winning? Such a confusing day!!!
Bogrbon 27
To everyone saying this doesn’t make sense, the fact she(or he, but for some reason I am assuming a she) refers to a “birth father” implies that there’s an adoption in there, so she has a custodial parent or guardian who is not her biological father (whether a step father or adoptive father, or if she’s in foster care). What she wants is to have a relationship with her biological father and live with him, likely because her relationship with her custodial parents, but he decided he doesn’t want that responsibility. And it seems like that if it was even an option her custodial parents or guardians didn’t want her either. So essentially she’s an unwanted child.
kfchicken 31
the part that doesn't make sense is that he "changed his mind" after op "finally" found him. which means they were in contact while OP was looking for him which doesn't make sense because he would have just told them where he is.
Chazzster 32
OP, first let me say that I understand this is a painful blow. As an adoptive father, I feel strongly that your parents are the people who raised you. I don’t understand why you would feel so strongly about finding your birth father. I assume it’s the result of some fantasy about the life or parents you wanted to have. And of course this is the end of that fantasy. Remember this, if you were put up for adoption it’s probably because you birth parent(s) were unable to provide a home for you and made the judgement call that adoption would be better. Or it is because they didn’t want or weren’t ready for the responsibilities of being a parent. Given that, why would you think that now you are going to be greeted with open arms many years later? It could happen but it’s highly unlikely. The same applies to divorce and blended families - Sometimes a child thinks things will be better if they lived with the non-custodial parent. That almost never works out either. Nearly anyone can be pleasant for a brief visit, but to actually live with and be responsible for a person is something else entirely. Decisions about which is the custodial parent or about adoption are not made quickly or easily. While it’s easy to second guess those decisions, much of the driving force behind those decisions is based upon on the characteristics and situation of the person making the decision. That’s not really likely to change, even years later. If you have issues with the family that raised you, I strongly suggest you see if they cannot be worked out - At least try. I know that sometimes there are irreconcilable differences between a parent or parents and child, especially in the teenage years when things get more difficult and this can happen with natural or adoptive families. But to be honest, the likelihood of being loved and accepted is higher with the family that raised you than with the ones who put you up for adoption.