By Anonymous - 14/10/2017 06:00
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Why would you have sex before the results come back? Even if you think you're clean, better safe than sorry.
But the fact that she has it now and didn't before would more than likely insinuate that either A) She has a new partner and should have gotten tested anyways or B) Hasn't had a test in a while in which case she also should have waited for the results.
Nowhere did I say it was only on her. It's on the guy as well, whoever gave it to her whether it be from the current guy or a previous one, to get tested at least occasionally and to divulge said information prior to entering a sexual relationship with someone. But obviously that didn't happen in this situation. And yes, even if she isn't cheating it can be an issue for her, if she has had multiple partners since her previous test. Then she has to tell the guy "surprise, we both have chlamydia now!" And how the hell are you getting a couple of weeks to have sex? Doesn't it only take a few days for results? Is it really that difficult to not have sex for a few days?
Your reply stated she could have waited for the test results. If she has to wait, then she should have sex once and then get tested again. Who knows how long they've been together? There's people who date for 10 plus years and there's no cheating, so a regular yearly pap smear is all you need. Being married or dating doesn't stop one from cheating one way or the other. There's no reason to 'wait for results' if she wasn't expecting it.
There are people who are together a long time, but that is completely irrelevant to the FML. If they were then there was more than likely cheating involved for this situation to happen. If OP was the one cheating then there's no sympathy for her, but if her partner was cheating then it would be in the FML. Sure it sucks that the most likely scenario is that the guy simply hasn't gotten tested or just didn't tell OP, but that is still something both parties should find out before entering into a new sexual relationship.
YDI for having sex while waiting for the test result. Especially if you didn't tell him you were getting tested.
OP is a guy maybe he got tested while in a relationship and caught it from his partner (I've heard of this happening to quiet a few people)
Chlamydia can be detected after having a regular paper smear at a routine physical. She may not have known she had it and received it from her boyfriend who is cheating on her. The sex abruptly stopped because maybe she just realized who she got it from! Or, she's cheating and didn't realize she got it. But man, you need to learn how things get tested. You don't always notice symptoms and this girl was lucky her obgyn caught it!