Run for the hills

By Anonymous - 10/05/2022 18:00

Today, I finally realized my husband sees our son and I as more of a financial burden than actually wanting to provide for us. Well, now what the fuck do I do? FML
I agree, your life sucks 824
You deserved it 249

Same thing different taste

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Ever consider sitting down and talking with him about it? If it turns out he truly feels that way, go to a divorce attorney and show him how much of a financial drain you can really be.

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Ever consider sitting down and talking with him about it? If it turns out he truly feels that way, go to a divorce attorney and show him how much of a financial drain you can really be.

Make sure he gets his money's worth -- if you know what I mean ;)

rotflqtms_ 21

You can go find a job that can pay for daycare and a daycare center that will leave you with a little money and help out financially. If he doesn't make enough to have a stay at home wife, help out. Don't just expect him to be able to financially support you. You guys should pitch in to pay for things so neither of you are paying the brunt of the bills. I don't have children, but I know they're expensive. I'm not going to be a stay at home wife if/when I get married because I like having my own money to do what I wanna do. I'm not planning on relying on anyone and make enough to cover my mortgage and pay my bills as is. If you've become a burden, help out. Do something. Don't just watch him struggle. Even if you don't want a job, go get one. No one loves going to work, but we do it anyway. You have a child and a husband, so be an adult.

EricForman 8

While you make valid points there isn’t daycare available in much places right now. It’s gone up by hundreds of dollars a per month and most daycares have waitlist extremely long. I waited 9 months to get off the waitlist. 9 months! No I’m laws or family nearby.

Am I reading a different FML than everyone else? Nothing in it states OP is a SAHM, she could have a job that isn't bringing in as much as the husband likes, or maybe he wasn't fully prepared for how expensive kids are...

kitten79TX 5

Your options: 1. Try marriage counseling. 2. Get a job (if you don't already have one). 3. Go to school to be able to get a good job. 4. Get a divorce while pursuing a job or school. Typically the marriage dynamic works like this: women want love, men want respect. when men don't feel respected, they tend to withhold affection. When women don't feel loved, they tend to withhold sex. One feeds into the other escalating the issues. Try making time to have regular dates and reconnect. If you haven't been having sex, put on some makeup and sexy lingerie and get to it. I am NOT saying this is your fault, in any way (I don't know you or your husband). What I AM saying is that if you do your best to make him feel respected, and put in the effort to initiate intimacey on a regular basis, itsa big step towards fixing a lot of marriage problems. Is it guaranteed to work? No. But if it doesn't at least you'll know you honestly tried.