Today, I finally realized my husband sees our son and I as more of a financial burden than actually wanting to provide for us. Well, now what the fuck do I do? FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, my husband just told me that he no longer loves me but keeps me around to handle his finances. FML
Today, my husband and I have been fighting because I gave our son his college fund, even though he got a full-ride scholarship. My husband didn't think it was necessary and wanted to use it for other things. FML
Today, I asked my husband to be a little more responsible, pick up after himself, and spend a little less. I earn more than he does, so it's usually my money that he splurges. He has gone on a non-stop tantrum for the past 5 hours, giving me the cold shoulder, and shouting at me. What have I gotten myself into? FML
Today, after presenting my husband with a more than fair request to pay me an hourly wage for being a stay-at-home mom, he laughed his ass off and told me if I want money so badly, I could get a job. He'd rather strangers in daycare raise our babies than pay me what I'm worth. FML
Today, I asked my boyfriend to help me with groceries, since the last of my money went to last week's groceries. His response was to start a fight, then tell me it's my fault my daughter acts the way she does, which is when he finally got me to break down and cry. I'm pregnant with his kid, and I also pay 90% of our bills. FML
Today, my husband told me "The only reason I stay with you is because it's cheaper than paying child support." FML
Today, due to some serious health and financial issues, I literally have no choice but to have my mom watch my kids. She's turned my son into the most spoiled insufferable brat, I can’t stand it. Then I feel like I’m punishing him at home for what his grandmother enforces in hers. I don't know what to do. FML
Today, my wife and I realized that we made a huge mistake in allowing our son to stay behind and live with my parents when we had to move cross-country due to work. Our lives are so empty without him and we're missing out on watching him grow up, but he refuses to come live with us. FML
Today, my husband was served child support paperwork by the couple he insisted on donating his sperm to. When I tried to warn him beforehand, he said I was being a jealous, paranoid, control freak and that it was his decision to help out some friends. We’re already struggling financially. Thanks babe. FML
Today, I had to offer my boyfriend a no-hard-feelings opportunity to just leave. He never wanted to be a dad, but since we accidentally got pregnant and had our son, I’ve watched his mental health go downhill so fast I was afraid he’d kill himself if he kept forcing himself to stay with us. FML
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cacheson 42
Get a job, and help provide?
mike3775 39
Ever consider sitting down and talking with him about it? If it turns out he truly feels that way, go to a divorce attorney and show him how much of a financial drain you can really be.
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cacheson 42
Get a job, and help provide?
mike3775 39
Ever consider sitting down and talking with him about it? If it turns out he truly feels that way, go to a divorce attorney and show him how much of a financial drain you can really be.
RichardPencil 32
Make sure he gets his money's worth -- if you know what I mean ;)
rotflqtms_ 21
You can go find a job that can pay for daycare and a daycare center that will leave you with a little money and help out financially. If he doesn't make enough to have a stay at home wife, help out. Don't just expect him to be able to financially support you. You guys should pitch in to pay for things so neither of you are paying the brunt of the bills. I don't have children, but I know they're expensive. I'm not going to be a stay at home wife if/when I get married because I like having my own money to do what I wanna do. I'm not planning on relying on anyone and make enough to cover my mortgage and pay my bills as is. If you've become a burden, help out. Do something. Don't just watch him struggle. Even if you don't want a job, go get one. No one loves going to work, but we do it anyway. You have a child and a husband, so be an adult.
EricForman 8
While you make valid points there isn’t daycare available in much places right now. It’s gone up by hundreds of dollars a per month and most daycares have waitlist extremely long. I waited 9 months to get off the waitlist. 9 months! No I’m laws or family nearby.
QueenSaru 28
Am I reading a different FML than everyone else? Nothing in it states OP is a SAHM, she could have a job that isn't bringing in as much as the husband likes, or maybe he wasn't fully prepared for how expensive kids are...
kitten79TX 5
Your options: 1. Try marriage counseling. 2. Get a job (if you don't already have one). 3. Go to school to be able to get a good job. 4. Get a divorce while pursuing a job or school. Typically the marriage dynamic works like this: women want love, men want respect. when men don't feel respected, they tend to withhold affection. When women don't feel loved, they tend to withhold sex. One feeds into the other escalating the issues. Try making time to have regular dates and reconnect. If you haven't been having sex, put on some makeup and sexy lingerie and get to it. I am NOT saying this is your fault, in any way (I don't know you or your husband). What I AM saying is that if you do your best to make him feel respected, and put in the effort to initiate intimacey on a regular basis, itsa big step towards fixing a lot of marriage problems. Is it guaranteed to work? No. But if it doesn't at least you'll know you honestly tried.