Send pics! I gotta see this woman!

oof I'm sorry. I've been there before. :/

It's a shame, but maybe it's time to face reality. If everything backfires, then go with a majority vote. If hubby and kids are happier elsewhere, let them do so instead of holding on to false hope.

What's best for the kids should be 1st priority, instead of them watching you and hubby fight.

Sounds like an opportunity to explore ethical non-monogamy to me, have fun!

My ex used to get angry beyond reason when confronted with the truth about cheating / liking someone else.

you need tackle that shit sister. or maybe its to late. or maybe your friend is not your friend. you see... YOU shouldn't have to ask your self these questions or even have to do this . get your man in check and it you need to check your"friend" or .. get a new... mainly insert you loiness nature. or you queendom will fall