Parental fear

By Anonymous - 24/11/2021 02:01

Today, my girlfriend found out that she's pregnant and has spent the last 5 hours in the bathroom crying at “what her father is going to think”. She’s 32 years old for god's sake, in an adult relationship, and still thinks her father is going to be angry at her. FML
I agree, your life sucks 1 212
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Wanting your parent's approval at any age is normal, if not necessarily healthy, and a lot of boomer-generation parents have the expectation that their kids are married before they have kids. Comfort her, and be caring, but don't dismiss her concerns. An unplanned pregnancy is a bit hard on the parents, but it's especially hard on the mother. You need to realize that her unhappiness is due in part to all of her life expectations, her expectations from her parents, and likely a bit of shock. Her parents will get over it, but if you're not empathetic, she will not.

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Wanting your parent's approval at any age is normal, if not necessarily healthy, and a lot of boomer-generation parents have the expectation that their kids are married before they have kids. Comfort her, and be caring, but don't dismiss her concerns. An unplanned pregnancy is a bit hard on the parents, but it's especially hard on the mother. You need to realize that her unhappiness is due in part to all of her life expectations, her expectations from her parents, and likely a bit of shock. Her parents will get over it, but if you're not empathetic, she will not.

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You probably don't know what her father thinks about you. That's why she's crying.

Considering mothers get shafted in the work force, and many fathers don't actually do much child care, then her chances of a successful high powered career just plummeted to nearly nill. So, if her parents had high expectations for her professional career then she'll feel she's failed in that aspect now.

she's crazy hormonal, give her a break

She could be from a traditional background where being married before you have a child is important. Hopefully you are happy about her being pregnant. You may want to consider the social pressure and hopefully the idea of marrying her does not scare you.

This is very common. I did the same thing about what my mom was going to think about being pregnant when I was already married. It’s normal. Love her through it.

Lmao your privilege is showing dude