By Anonymous - 5/7/2020 08:31

Mysterious disappointment

Today, I texted my mom and told her I'm pregnant and she responded with, "I can’t respond to this right now." So she and my dad are disappointed in me. None of my other siblings were married or even engaged before having their kids. I’m 23, engaged, and own my own house. I don’t see the problem. FML
cheyennejocelyn tells us more :
This is my post, and my parents have never supported me in anything in life. They weren’t happy about my engagement, I knew they weren’t gonna be happy about my pregnancy, so to save to the argument I did it over text. I have since miscarried.
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This is my post, and my parents have never supported me in anything in life. They weren’t happy about my engagement, I knew they weren’t gonna be happy about my pregnancy, so to save to the argument I did it over text. I have since miscarried.

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  Kraths  |  16

They could also live a fair distance from them. I live almost 13 and half hours from my parents and am not going to drive or fly that distance just to tell them things like that. A text would save time

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  samomaha  |  17

Regardless of the distance, a text is generally inappropriate for any important news. Given OP's situation, I can absolutely understand using text and I fully support her in this situation. But for most of us, a text just doesn't cut it. If you can text, you can call.

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  Win  |  9

It would be black and white thinking to say “if you can text, you can call”. You start out sounding like you understand but then end with something so rigid. Maybe you haven’t experienced the same stuff OP has. It is not easier to “just call” if the rift is huge. It’s often less anxiety-provoking to just text- especially seeing as OP says they have always been treated unfairly so “normal dynamics” aka “just call” changes very quickly.

Also, I’m sorry you had to deal with that OP. And I’m sorry for your loss. I hope you have a good support system outside of your unsupportive immediate family. I can see you’re trying to be accepted by them - normal process for any child. It seems they do not want to reciprocate or appreciate though, so I’m sorry but they may not come around fully as you want. But it makes sense to try. I just hope you’re taking care of yourself and have some compassion for yourself too. Sometimes we have to sooth ourselves and leave toxic people behind. :/
Good luck! <3

By  Matthew Irmen  |  11

If you don’t see a problem there is no problem. Don’t spend the rest of your life setting up situations to guarantee approval