The birthday present is fine, the other stuff listed are too much. I'm afraid he's right. You can do nice things for a boyfriend once in a while, but you don't need to go above and beyond every day.

You don’t owe someone you’re getting to know that much. Sure, be generous, but don’t bend over backwards and give them your logins and lunch everyday

sounds like he was just using you and when he felt too guilty decided to end it in a way that makes you the bad guy. In the future,hold off on anything other than the birthday present until he's actually your boyfriend

Don't give wife material to boyfriends 🤷‍♀️

it’s the lunch every day. once in a while maybe but not every day

I agree with everyone else saying the lunches were too much. I’d get insulted if a girl I was dating felt like she needed to buy me lunch everyday

Buying him a birthday present is fine, but you're not his mother so you do absolutely do not have to buy his lunch every day. And him using your Netflix? How is he even doing that? They've majorly cracked down on account sharing. If you guys were watching it together, okay. But if you're not living together, he can get his own account like a grown adult. I kind of see where he's coming from. I've been in your position, though. The fear of not being the "perfect girlfriend" which would result in losing this seemingly perfect guy - when in actuality losing him is a blessing in disguise. Trust me, you don't have to be so generous.

I mean, what's the context here? Because if you've been seeing him a few years, or even months, that all sounds relatively reasonable (Every day lunches might be a little much in any relationship, but it's less out-of-step for a long-term partner). If you've been seeing him like, a few weeks, that might be a little much, y'know? And considering you'd probably call him "your boyfriend/partner" if you'd been seeing him regularly for a long period of time, I'm guessing it probably is closer to that "weeks" side of the equation.