By Anonymous - 16/8/2021 05:01 - United Kingdom - Norwich

Libido says no

  Today, I discovered my girlfriend of 5 years would rather split up than make any shred of effort to revive her utterly dead libido from the last 2 years. She promised the whole past month to make an effort, before admitting she never gave a shit when my patience with her ran out. FML
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By  Plop  |  14

I doubt you pressuring her to "work" on her libido helped much in the first place. As surprising as it may sound, sex isn't supposed to be work (well, except for those people who make a living form it). Pushing for sex is an absolute turn off if your partner is not in the mood. Especially since it seems like her sex drive was at least fine for about 3 years of your relationship, there may have been an underlying reason for the change, which you don't really sound like you tried to figure out in the first place.

I'm not saying it's not possible that OP's girlfriend just "gave up" on sex, but it's at least equally likely that OP stopped trying to make sex enjoyable to her, prompting her giving up.

By  rebelwithmouseyhair  |  16

If she had a great sex drive before, what happened? Kids? The pill? Or maybe you're a lousy lover?
Apparently doing all the cooking cleaning shopping while your lover plays video games on the couch is a huge turn off... So you see she is probably not the one who needs to make an effort.

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By  Plop  |  14

I doubt you pressuring her to "work" on her libido helped much in the first place. As surprising as it may sound, sex isn't supposed to be work (well, except for those people who make a living form it). Pushing for sex is an absolute turn off if your partner is not in the mood. Especially since it seems like her sex drive was at least fine for about 3 years of your relationship, there may have been an underlying reason for the change, which you don't really sound like you tried to figure out in the first place.

I'm not saying it's not possible that OP's girlfriend just "gave up" on sex, but it's at least equally likely that OP stopped trying to make sex enjoyable to her, prompting her giving up.

By  rebelwithmouseyhair  |  16

If she had a great sex drive before, what happened? Kids? The pill? Or maybe you're a lousy lover?
Apparently doing all the cooking cleaning shopping while your lover plays video games on the couch is a huge turn off... So you see she is probably not the one who needs to make an effort.

By  wawa_sxm  |  15

wow so much hate up in here...but I promise you if a man didn't have sex with his wife for 2 years they would be screaming divorce.
You did your part, she doesn't care how you feel, if she wont make an effort it means shes not interested in sex with you
Maybe shes interested in someone else.....just move on

By  Silver_helmet  |  5

The end of passion. As some said, maybe you want to look into how you do things, in the bedroom and outside.
if you are living together, remember that a woman cannot be in the kitchen and in the bedroom at the same time (=sharing household chores is important).
If you do not live together, dates and flowers are important, as if it was a person you need to win over every day.
And last... maybe your time is up.