By Anonymous - 30/6/2021 16:01

Kinda heartless, but OK

  Today, it’s been almost a month and a half of no intimacy between my boyfriend and me. To spice things up, I started going down on him. He burst out crying after a couple of minutes because he "misses his sister." The funeral was nearly 2 months ago already. FML
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By  cuz803  |  43

He obviously needs more time to heal from his grievances. You should also note that a death in the family is a wound that will NEVER heal to 100%. It's also very selfish of you to value intimacy over your man's feelings such as grief. Very deplorable on your part, ma'am. Apologize and either support him or leave him alone until he's ready.

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By  cuz803  |  43

He obviously needs more time to heal from his grievances. You should also note that a death in the family is a wound that will NEVER heal to 100%. It's also very selfish of you to value intimacy over your man's feelings such as grief. Very deplorable on your part, ma'am. Apologize and either support him or leave him alone until he's ready.

By  motoikkyu  |  13

Communication is the biggest challenge in a relationship. Yes, folks react to the loss of a close family member in different ways, and clearly he is still grieving, BUT you are still there, a living breathing human with needs. If there is a way to communicate your needs in a non-threatening, non-critical way, you might want to try that: "Hey, I know you're hurting, but I love you and I know you love me. Sometimes, intimacy can help heal you, because it strengthens the bonds you still have in your life." etc. Your feelings matter, too!

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I see you haven't lost anyone recently, and that's good. I'll be cooking, or playing a video game, reading a book, watching a tv show, or just about damn near doing any thing in the world and bam, it hits me, and I miss my grandparents, and I miss the animals I've lost. Fuckin right now, I started this paragraph fine but bam here it is again. It just happens, the act of whatever's going on, the conversation, sometimes they're triggers, other times they're irrelevant.

By  Hangryko  |  18

F his life for having you for a girlfriend. You are the epitome of selfishness and entitlement. It disturbs me that you aren't saddened by his sister's death as well, surely you've met her. YDI.