By Anonymous - 11/12/2020 19:57

It is what it is

Today, I drunkenly admitted to a friend of five years that I've "liked" her for a long time now. She's been in a relationship with some douche for a year and a half at this point. She started crying, and when she finally stopped said, "I can forget this ever happened." FML
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By  tounces7  |  27

She won't forget, the next time he treats her like shit, that she's got other options now. At the very least it will give her more confidence the next time he tells her that no one else would want her other than him.

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By  tido26  |  15

Just because she "can't forget" doesn't mean it a catastrophe. Alcohol got the best of you, it happens to just about everyone.
I'd apologize for letting it happen, and say you respect her relationship and most importantly her friendship and if you could take it back you would. That you hope that you can move forward as friends because you would rather be a friend than nothing at all, but that you also understand if she needs a bit of a break if shes not comfortable.... but only if this is true.
Calling her boyfriend anything negative just makes you look jealous and unreasonable.
Keep in mind its easy to fall into "nice guy" category here so really try to think about how you proceede

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It'd be pretty terrible if OP turned around and said "I was drunk, your boyfriend isn't a douche, he's an okay guy", and said boyfriend was later revealed to be a domestic abuser or something.

Oh, and "nice guys" are creeps. They expect to be blown by a woman if they hold a door open for her, then go full incel when she says no. This dude needed five years and a lot of booze to get the nerve to say anything, so I don't think he's going to flip any time soon.

By  tounces7  |  27

She won't forget, the next time he treats her like shit, that she's got other options now. At the very least it will give her more confidence the next time he tells her that no one else would want her other than him.