Are you my mommy now?

By Anonymous - 01/10/2022 09:00

Today, after I offered my boyfriend of a couple of months to come stay at my place for a few days, he turned up with suitcases… along with his 2 children, who he'd never mentioned having before, despite one of them being a toddler. They seem intent on staying a while, so I'm wondering what to do now. FML
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Sounds like he withheld information specifically so that you would feel obligated to let him stay since you already agreed. That’s not good. Definitely check tenants’ rights in your area and get him out.

Suggestion - Obviously boyfriend lied or at the very least withheld important information so he could move in with you. It’s over - Kick him out as soon as possible. He’s not suddenly going to become an honest and trustworthy person. The sooner you get him out of your life the easier it will be.

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Sounds like he withheld information specifically so that you would feel obligated to let him stay since you already agreed. That’s not good. Definitely check tenants’ rights in your area and get him out.

Suggestion - Obviously boyfriend lied or at the very least withheld important information so he could move in with you. It’s over - Kick him out as soon as possible. He’s not suddenly going to become an honest and trustworthy person. The sooner you get him out of your life the easier it will be.

Tell him right now the date her needs to be gone. Set boundaries now.

Do NOT let him stay, no matter how much it kills you to put children out. Once he's there long enough to establish residency, you're screwed

You're so right about this. I guess it may vary by location, but I've had this happen with a long-term boyfriend that simply refused to leave, and the cops told me they couldn't do anything unless I formally evicted him. They even told me that I could go live in a shelter in the meantime if I didn't feel safe with him around.

Time to talk to him about it, then tell him that the invitation was for him alone, not with his unmentioned kids.