In my day…

By thanks dad - 01/08/2020 02:02

Today, we were slowly introducing my daughter to the pool to help her get over her terrible fear of water. My father-in-law scoffed, called us pussies, and tossed my daughter straight into the water. When I threw him out, he insisted he was just trying to teach her to swim "the right way." FML
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Marcella1016 31

I almost drowned this way. In this case, I was 8 and it was my 12 year old sister. She insisted this was the way for me to learn. I remember thrashing in the water, making it to the wall she wanted me to touch (it was only about 3 feet away), touching it underwater, turning back to her for her to pull me above the surface, and her backing away because she didn’t see me touch the wall. This is all I remember. She told me years later that a lady jumped in and pulled me out. I don’t remember that part, just the near-drowning and the vivid fear. To this day, I cannot swim, and I feel like I am drowning or being waterboarded if there is too much water in my face. I see movies of people in the shower just letting the water rush down over their whole face and NOPE I’ve tried it and it feels like I’m drowning. I’m jealous of people who can do that because it looks relaxing and pleasant but it just feels like torture to me. It took me years to connect the incident with that, as well as my inability to go “down deep” into water - even at 3 feet. Fuck people who teach kids to swim that way. It’s just a psychotic dick move with a complete lack of empathy for the struggling and terrified child. Fucking shitbags.

I see a number of "I learned this way comments" and frankly it doesn't matter. The choice of how to teach the child was the parents. They were right to toss him out, simply on him disrespecting their wishes alone, to say nothing of their daughter having a legit fear that may now take years to fix. Father-In-Law can fuck right off, thanks.

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That’s how I learned

Same here, except it was in the middle of a lake and tossed from a boat.

tounces7 27

If someone tried that with one of my kids, I would punch them in the fucking head and tell them it was the last time they would ever be around my kids again.

Try to keep track of what old-folks homes in the area have the most egregious and disturbing incidences of elder abuse and neglect. Send your father-in-law to the worst one.

Mathalamus 24

Seems a bit mean spirited. Isn't abandoning him to any old folks home and never visiting enough?

He'd probably call you a pussy. Now, don't you agree he belongs in a shithole?

Mathalamus 24

No.

Marcella1016 31

I almost drowned this way. In this case, I was 8 and it was my 12 year old sister. She insisted this was the way for me to learn. I remember thrashing in the water, making it to the wall she wanted me to touch (it was only about 3 feet away), touching it underwater, turning back to her for her to pull me above the surface, and her backing away because she didn’t see me touch the wall. This is all I remember. She told me years later that a lady jumped in and pulled me out. I don’t remember that part, just the near-drowning and the vivid fear. To this day, I cannot swim, and I feel like I am drowning or being waterboarded if there is too much water in my face. I see movies of people in the shower just letting the water rush down over their whole face and NOPE I’ve tried it and it feels like I’m drowning. I’m jealous of people who can do that because it looks relaxing and pleasant but it just feels like torture to me. It took me years to connect the incident with that, as well as my inability to go “down deep” into water - even at 3 feet. Fuck people who teach kids to swim that way. It’s just a psychotic dick move with a complete lack of empathy for the struggling and terrified child. Fucking shitbags.

Gamer_299 4

if you want to get over your fear then do it little by little. put yourself out of your comfort zone by just a little bit. when that doesn't bother you anymore go out of your comfort zone by a little again. thats how i got over my fears, also try to talk your self through it, reassure yourself that you'll be fine, and keep calm.

mccuish 25

I learned how to swim this way

Elisabetha Aarron 18

That doesn't make it the right away. A lot of people have almost drown from this happening to them.

Yummi_913 18

Almost? No, a lot of people HAVE drowned this way. I've heard of it quite a few times. My sister was almost one of them too thanks to our neighbor, but she was successfully resuscitated after already blacking out and laying on the pool floor for we don't even know how long.

Statistics ?

I see a number of "I learned this way comments" and frankly it doesn't matter. The choice of how to teach the child was the parents. They were right to toss him out, simply on him disrespecting their wishes alone, to say nothing of their daughter having a legit fear that may now take years to fix. Father-In-Law can fuck right off, thanks.

that is NOT the way to do it! -someone who isn't a strong swimmer and almost died by drowning that way

It not about learning to swim it was about getting her over her fear of the pool. So learning to swim wasn't the point nor what it was about.

so tossing a child who doesn’t know how to swim is supposed to help said child get over their fear of water? sounds like this child is going to be scarred for life and terrified of water from now on

Excatly the whole thing everyone is talking about them learning to swim. My point was is they weren't trying to teach the kid to swim. They were trying to teach the kid not be afraid of water.

Jillian Cosby-Kelly 15

poor kid, but let's be honest, you knew the guy is a dick and is likely to do this sort of thing. protect your kid.

is likely to traumatize their child? way to victim blame

now he can get a restraining order the right way

diraven 15

Hide his dentures, make a steak dinner, and tell him you're trying to teach him how to chew like a real man