By Anonymous - 17/3/2021 08:00

How does she know?

  Today, my future mother-in-law freaked out my very religious fiancé by telling him fornication is gonna send him to hell, because when I was with them in January we had sex every day for a month and she's still mad about it. FML
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By  Chazzster  |  20

There are things you really shouldn’t do at someone else’s home. The most basic of which is to knowingly do things that offend their personal principles. I’m definitely not going to say that having sex with your fiancé is wrong - But I will say that if the parents don’t approve of pre-marital sex, then don’t do it when they are around or leave evidence for them to find.

It’s odd that fiancé is “religious” and yet apparently did not know that his religion disapproves of pre-marital sex? Either he’s extraordinarily naive or hypocritical. While not officially, often people ignore the Biblical bans on pre-marital sex when the couples are officially engaged to be married. And not all apparently “religious” people are hung up on following every rule of their religion - especially when it feels so good not to.

You now have a difficult situation - Fiancé is easily influenced by his mom and yet sex is a healthy and normal desire for young men and women. There might even be a bit of twisted jealousy between Fiancé’s mom and you. Had the two of you been more discrete you would not be in this situation. But you are where you are. Apologize (convincingly) with Fiancé to his mom for having sex in their home when they did not approve, and arrange your love making with more discretion in the future. If you are old enough to be independent, get your own place.

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  Plop  |  9

kfchicken_fml: Well, yes and no. Then no again. It's her fiance, not her husband, so the sex was strictly pre-marital, therefore sinful. 2nd, it's not so much that post-marital sex is kosher, but rather that extra/pre-marital sex is sinful regardless of circumstances. 3rd, the reason for both is that non-procreative sex is always sinful.

Fun thing is, for that very reason, male masturbation is supposed to be as sinful as extra-marital sex, but religious nutjobs always conveniently forget about that close, or excuse it because "boys will be boys".

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  Chazzster  |  20

What is being inferred to here is that the most basic tenant in Christianity is that one’s “sins” can be forgiven if you earnestly repent of those sins and ask forgiveness. In this doctrine no one is condemned to “hell” for anything unless you are unwilling to earnestly ask for forgiveness. It is a basic Christian doctrine and always has been.

By  Chazzster  |  20

There are things you really shouldn’t do at someone else’s home. The most basic of which is to knowingly do things that offend their personal principles. I’m definitely not going to say that having sex with your fiancé is wrong - But I will say that if the parents don’t approve of pre-marital sex, then don’t do it when they are around or leave evidence for them to find.

It’s odd that fiancé is “religious” and yet apparently did not know that his religion disapproves of pre-marital sex? Either he’s extraordinarily naive or hypocritical. While not officially, often people ignore the Biblical bans on pre-marital sex when the couples are officially engaged to be married. And not all apparently “religious” people are hung up on following every rule of their religion - especially when it feels so good not to.

You now have a difficult situation - Fiancé is easily influenced by his mom and yet sex is a healthy and normal desire for young men and women. There might even be a bit of twisted jealousy between Fiancé’s mom and you. Had the two of you been more discrete you would not be in this situation. But you are where you are. Apologize (convincingly) with Fiancé to his mom for having sex in their home when they did not approve, and arrange your love making with more discretion in the future. If you are old enough to be independent, get your own place.

By  Brandy Plapp  |  6

And how did she know? Did you tell her? were you not discreet or respectful in their home? It's no one's business but yours unless you make it theirs by disrespecting their rules in their home. And even then you can keep it on the down low....

By  princess_stabitty  |  18

Well, your "very religious" fiancé is a hypocrite, and you both are treating his mother with very little, if any respect, if you do things your future in-laws do not approve of, under their very roof.