How could you?

By Anonymous - 08/07/2023 17:02 - United States

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Today, I found out my boyfriend of almost two years had kept nude photos and videos of his ex, whom he couldn’t seem to let go of from the start. We’re locked into a pricy apartment lease together, and I don’t have anywhere I can go. Thanks babe, love you. FML
I agree, your life sucks 912
You deserved it 298

Same thing different taste

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I don't see the problem. I've been given that sort of content as a gift, personally I get rid of it after the relationship because it seems like the moral thing to do. Though if I hadn't it doesn't seem like it should be a relationship deal breaker.

Vesi 29

OK 1: I'm 48 and been around MANY blocks. 2: I have photos of old boyfriends. So what? It's not because I'm pining for any of them. But the fact still stands, snooping in his business is not ok.

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Are they displayed on your walls or on the mantlepiece? That would suck!

so just try n delete them when he's asleep. I would. good luck

Vesi 29

OK first, his phone is his private business and snooping almost always leads to trouble. Second, it is NOT her place, or anyone else's, to delete *anything* off his phone. The best thing is ask *without accusing* why he still has those pics and videos. Ask *politely* that they be deleted, not giving an ultimatum. If he agrees, cool. If not, then ask why he's not willing to delete them. If he's really that hooked on her, then your best bet is to be a roommate until you can find other arrangements. it is possibly he simply forgot they were there. it's best not to jump to conclusions without talking with him first. Now if he gets defensive, *that* is your red flag, not that they still exist.

@Vesi - Oh, my sweet summer child. *facepalm*

Vesi 29

OK 1: I'm 48 and been around MANY blocks. 2: I have photos of old boyfriends. So what? It's not because I'm pining for any of them. But the fact still stands, snooping in his business is not ok.

I don't see the problem. I've been given that sort of content as a gift, personally I get rid of it after the relationship because it seems like the moral thing to do. Though if I hadn't it doesn't seem like it should be a relationship deal breaker.

Don't go anywhere....you are now just roomates

babe holy shit. that mf don’t deserve you. I’d offer my place if I knew you more!! sending love ♥️