Today, my dad said he hates gay people. My parents don't know I'm gay. I'm a high school senior. I wish I could just have someone to love and to love me, I just feel so lonely. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, my dad's new wife, who is two years younger than me (I'm 24) and hates that I'm a lesbian, threw a fit when I told her that I would never call her Mom. My dad took her side. I don't live with them but still… FML
Today, I found out that my parents have thought I'm lesbian for at least a year. I now understand why my dad has been trying to get me to "hang out" with his co-worker's daughter. FML
Today, my entire family thinks I'm a lesbian. I'm straight. I'm embarrassed and don't know how to tell them that I've been single for so long because I can't get a guy. FML
Today, my dad has “accepted” that I’m a lesbian, but can’t seem to understand why I can’t just ignore that part of myself, marry a man and have kids, and never talk about the "lesbian thing" ever again. FML
Today, I found my dad drunk, sitting on the bathroom floor crying. When I asked him why, he said, "My son is gay." I'm his only child, and I'm a girl. FML
Today, I finally got the courage to tell my parents that I'm gay. My mom said "Yeah, we know." When I asked how they knew, my dad, without looking up from the tv, said, "We've been monitoring your Internet history." FML
Today, my father contacted me for the first time in years to ask about my upcoming wedding, and possibly walking me down the aisle. He claimed the only reason he left was because he thought I'd be gay. I am. FML
Today, my mom called me into the living room to say that she had something important to tell me. She then explained how she and my dad had "talked things over" and wanted me to know that they accept me and love me no matter what. Apparently my mom thinks I'm lesbian. I'm not. FML
Today, my dad seemed moody, so to lift his spirits, I told him I loved him. He just snorted, "You gay or something, boy?" Really mature, dad, really mature. FML
Today, I finally let my parents meet a boyfriend of mine for the first time ever. My dad mentioned how he was happy to finally meet him, because for the past 4 years he'd thought I was gay. FML
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RichardPencil 32
Ironically, your dad is probably secretly gay. The people who hate gays the most are those who know they are and cannot express it, and they have violent jealousy for those who can.
revolutionbabe 15
I would wait til you graduate HS to tell them. And hopefully they wont say "its just a phase." I hope that you can tell them and they accept it. Stay strong
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Comments (20)
xxlk4xx 6
I'm sorry you're going through this! I really hope your parents will eventually come around! are there any support groups you could join and talk to people who have also been in your situation? I couldn't even imagine hating someone for being gay! let alone my own child
revolutionbabe 15
I would wait til you graduate HS to tell them. And hopefully they wont say "its just a phase." I hope that you can tell them and they accept it. Stay strong
RichardPencil 32
Ironically, your dad is probably secretly gay. The people who hate gays the most are those who know they are and cannot express it, and they have violent jealousy for those who can.
tounces7 28
Oh yeah. Nobody has done more to harm gay rights than closeted gay people.
WhoopsIDidItAgain 11
I can totally sympathize! I'm also a HS senior and have never even held hands with anyone I'm interested in. I'm sorry you feel so lonely. Try reaching out to a few close friends and try to explain what you're going through. I always find that helps
Daltin Danser 2
Hey I am a gay teen in my senior year of high school if you need a friend DM me @daltin.Danser on Instagram. I can talk to you, I get how you feel. Sending you love. 💜
Bre Cree 1
I love you tho 🥺
jrn 14
Tell them after you graduate. However, if there’s any chance of your parents kicking you out, wait until you’re in a stable living situation to tell them.
Chazzster 32
I see three likely explanations for Dad’s remark: (1) He struggles with a tendency toward being gay himself and is homophobic because of that. (2) He senses your sexual orientation tendency and is reacting to that, thinking he can change you. (3) He is an ignorant religious bigot whose religious beliefs do not officially approve of homosexuality. OP, you are a worthwhile person. Your feelings and desires are your own and they are valid regardless of if anyone else in the family approves of them. It’s unlikely Dad is going to change his mind. Maybe Mom is more open minded but the risk is anything you tell Mom she may tell Dad regardless of what she says to you. While there is some possible chance Dad or Mom might change their minds and accept a gay son, there is also the risk that they might react badly. While you are dependent on them you are at the greatest risk. I recommend concentrating on finishing high school now and once you are done with that either go away to college or get a job and your own place. You will have time to date and find love after High School and when you are on your own you will be less under Dad and Mom’s control and judgement. I am not Gay, but I only really started dating in college. High school is not your only chance for dating.
xGod305x 2
Your dad is probably gay
Joy Smith 5
All the best to you!! even though you feel lonely being gay, statisticly there are many gay people around you...