Hang in there

By Anonymous - 02/01/2021 11:01

Today, my dad said he hates gay people. My parents don't know I'm gay. I'm a high school senior. I wish I could just have someone to love and to love me, I just feel so lonely. FML
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Ironically, your dad is probably secretly gay. The people who hate gays the most are those who know they are and cannot express it, and they have violent jealousy for those who can.

I would wait til you graduate HS to tell them. And hopefully they wont say "its just a phase." I hope that you can tell them and they accept it. Stay strong

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I'm sorry you're going through this! I really hope your parents will eventually come around! are there any support groups you could join and talk to people who have also been in your situation? I couldn't even imagine hating someone for being gay! let alone my own child

I would wait til you graduate HS to tell them. And hopefully they wont say "its just a phase." I hope that you can tell them and they accept it. Stay strong

Ironically, your dad is probably secretly gay. The people who hate gays the most are those who know they are and cannot express it, and they have violent jealousy for those who can.

Oh yeah. Nobody has done more to harm gay rights than closeted gay people.

I can totally sympathize! I'm also a HS senior and have never even held hands with anyone I'm interested in. I'm sorry you feel so lonely. Try reaching out to a few close friends and try to explain what you're going through. I always find that helps

Hey I am a gay teen in my senior year of high school if you need a friend DM me @daltin.Danser on Instagram. I can talk to you, I get how you feel. Sending you love. 💜

I love you tho 🥺

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Tell them after you graduate. However, if there’s any chance of your parents kicking you out, wait until you’re in a stable living situation to tell them.

I see three likely explanations for Dad’s remark: (1) He struggles with a tendency toward being gay himself and is homophobic because of that. (2) He senses your sexual orientation tendency and is reacting to that, thinking he can change you. (3) He is an ignorant religious bigot whose religious beliefs do not officially approve of homosexuality. OP, you are a worthwhile person. Your feelings and desires are your own and they are valid regardless of if anyone else in the family approves of them. It’s unlikely Dad is going to change his mind. Maybe Mom is more open minded but the risk is anything you tell Mom she may tell Dad regardless of what she says to you. While there is some possible chance Dad or Mom might change their minds and accept a gay son, there is also the risk that they might react badly. While you are dependent on them you are at the greatest risk. I recommend concentrating on finishing high school now and once you are done with that either go away to college or get a job and your own place. You will have time to date and find love after High School and when you are on your own you will be less under Dad and Mom’s control and judgement. I am not Gay, but I only really started dating in college. High school is not your only chance for dating.

Your dad is probably gay

All the best to you!! even though you feel lonely being gay, statisticly there are many gay people around you...