By Anonymous - 02/01/2021 11:01
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I'm sorry you're going through this! I really hope your parents will eventually come around! are there any support groups you could join and talk to people who have also been in your situation? I couldn't even imagine hating someone for being gay! let alone my own child
Ironically, your dad is probably secretly gay. The people who hate gays the most are those who know they are and cannot express it, and they have violent jealousy for those who can.
I see three likely explanations for Dad’s remark: (1) He struggles with a tendency toward being gay himself and is homophobic because of that. (2) He senses your sexual orientation tendency and is reacting to that, thinking he can change you. (3) He is an ignorant religious bigot whose religious beliefs do not officially approve of homosexuality. OP, you are a worthwhile person. Your feelings and desires are your own and they are valid regardless of if anyone else in the family approves of them. It’s unlikely Dad is going to change his mind. Maybe Mom is more open minded but the risk is anything you tell Mom she may tell Dad regardless of what she says to you. While there is some possible chance Dad or Mom might change their minds and accept a gay son, there is also the risk that they might react badly. While you are dependent on them you are at the greatest risk. I recommend concentrating on finishing high school now and once you are done with that either go away to college or get a job and your own place. You will have time to date and find love after High School and when you are on your own you will be less under Dad and Mom’s control and judgement. I am not Gay, but I only really started dating in college. High school is not your only chance for dating.